can you not be physically attracted to your significant but still be in Love ?

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by Lakshmi

It's more than appearance (to me) -- it's energy. I believe our souls zap us with chemistry when we meet someone who can be a mate and when that energy isn't there (to me) that shows friendship energy rather than lovers and maybe that is the message.

You haven't met in person yet though, so maybe it's too early to tell...

If you have lots in common and feel drawn to him, why not meet and see what happens in person?

One thing I will say though, if you are concerned about the lack of attraction now that may be a big factor in the long run -- I talked myself out of thinking the lack of attraction in one relationship was important to me because I felt so much love and care for him, and it ended up really being something I missed and I ended things so I could have more energy and passion. I wish I would have known that would end up being important to me before I went so deep into the relationship.

Hope this helps!

Thanks and that helps. I think you are right there has to be a force or energy as to why I'm drawn to that person. I have told him that I can't pretend to have romantic feelings for you when I don't. I just have to get more experience in the dating world. I'm sure when I find that "One" I'll know in the meantime I'm still young and learning.

There is a word for some one you really like on an emotional level but not physical. We call them friends.


Of course you can date whomever you please. It comes down to what you feel you deserve.
I've tried dating a few people I wasn't physically into and besides feeling bad for not being romantic enough (in the subtle ways) my partner realized I wasn't into her that way and basically got hurt. Was a disaster.

Everyone deserves to be with someone who they connect with on all levels. It will just hurt your partners self-esteem even more to be with someone who isn't feeling that connection. Send them off to find someone who will fall for him and in the end everyone will get to experience romantic bliss. For a while.