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Originally Posted by Shivani Devi
Thing is my friend, how do I 'change myself' in this specific case? I have looked within to find out why I am being tested like this, only to realise it isn't me...it is them and how do you change yourself to influence the behaviour of others when they are determined to behave that way? it just doesn't make any sense to me.
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I am being tested at present with a difficult situation and my initial response is expressed through selfishness pertaining my grief regarding a lost one.
My world has been ripped apart from one perspective and yet on the other hand I know different .
You have to go with how you are and how you feel up until a point where the situation no longer serves you.
Is your mother and your situation with others serving you as it is or not?
It's like any relationship really where you reach a point and acknowledge that it isn't doing anything for you ..
We can look at all things as a natural process, but how long the process of the transition takes is is each to their own.
Difficult situations / relationships are difficult for a reason and they are for most not easy to resolve ..
I have worked on myself for many years and have realized much about life and how we perceive it in reflection of how we perceive ourselves .
Allowing others in both our situations although different boils down to the same thing and that refers to allowing others to have an effect upon us .
It does seems a natural response had because of how we feel, but it really is like blaming the rain for feeling like pants ..
So how does one not get bothered about what the weather is like is the million dollar question isn't it ..
Well you seem to be self centred enough with your daily practices and you have experienced bliss beyond the intellectual fields so you can tackle this in many ways .. for myself I am sensitive to most things and life is difficult and I can't ignore or withdraw from life, I have had 10 years in near isolation as it is lol, but you need the strength from somewhere to carry on ..
This is a huge subject and there are so many dynamics at play, but getting to know self and accept how you are to some degree is vital . However accepting how things are isn't a get out of jail free card to put up with things as they are .
In another thread I posted about the comparison of the lower and higher self, in this case it's no different in regards to acknowledging our strengths and weaknesses .
If you truly have had enough of others in reflection of how you feel in yourself then the time could be right for change .
Like said change can manifest in many ways but it will always come . When one has suffered enough then and only then will the suffering end .
Have you suffered enough by the hands of others or by the hand of the universe?
Your answer is in the question ..
x daz x