I will stop complaining for the next 2 months

[cdoliveira]

Hey guys,

Spent the past days thinking about how I can improve my quality of live and my relationships and I came to the conclusion sometimes I complain about stupid things I shouldn't be complaining about. So, in order to be happier, see the bright side of things and be grateful for the amazing life and opportunities I have, I will stop complaining for the next 2 months. That's it, not even a single bad word will come out of my mouth! (My partner is going to be so happy) hahaha

Has anyone ever tried this?

What effects you guys think this is going to have in my mind and body?

Looking forward to seeing the results of it!!!

[Xanny]

In my experience, holding in my complaints or trying to turn away from them has only made them bite me in the butt harder after a while lol! In that, I tried coming up with different methods of dealing with them since biting my tongue doesn't do me, personally, any good for long periods of time (but this could just be me)

1) I like to write down whats bothering me, big and small. Even the ones I think are stupid are probably there for some reason, so I should pay attention to it

2) For every negative thing I'm feeling/thinking, I acknowledge it, but counteract it with one or two positive thoughts... sometimes this is harder to do, but, I try and try again anyway

I mean, depending on what's bothering you you may want to speak up about it.. if it's a problem you're facing with someone else, communication is needed

But yeah, I hope everything works out for you! Be sure that if holding it in starts to bring you down or starts to hurt then acknowledge and try to release it.. either in other sorts of ways, or by saying, f it! I need to say something!

Not sure that's a workable affirmation.

1) Why are you limiting it to 2 months? If you wish to change your behaviour
then it's an ongoing thing, surely.

2) What if you have a justifiable complaint (let's say someone tries to take advantage of you) are you willing to let it go?

3) How do you deal with about to complain and having to stop yourself? Some on-the-spot rationalisation may be the better deal.

4) Do you think you complain more than others? Question is, is there some underlying discontent of which complaining is a symptom?

"see the bright side of things and be grateful for the amazing life and opportunities I have"
Just wondering whether this is the best way to go about the changes you want to make.

"That's it, not even a single bad word will come out of my mouth! "
Take care you aren't simply suppressing this behaviour. It won't go away if that happens which means it won't help the other aim of yours that I quoted.

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[Miss Hepburn]

I like that your heart/soul/conscience is telling you it is not
such a good thing to complain
Keep following that inner guidance.

My experience...anything I focus on...brings more to me;
the good, the bad and the ugly!

What I mean is...if I keep repeating the story about something irritating
...that thing just keeps-on-a'happinin, period.
When I shrug my shoulders and say, "Oh, well." And simply drop it...
it seems not to recur...why?
I'm not exactly sure...I think it is because what I overcome...I've overcome, yay...
so there is no reason to have it come back to me.

This repeating to myself or to others how terrible something or someone is is a sure way to
have it repeat...until I over come it.

I have seen it time and time again...I used to HATE, grrr, when people came way early for an appointment.
The day I said, "Oh well"....not one person in the last 2 years comes
early anymore.

We all have legitimate complaints...but, there is this thing called 'conflict resolution'...
just resolve you will never place yourself in that situation again. No hard feelings...
lesson learned...stay away from that person. And then drop it...lesson learned.

Try it and you see.
Then, go back to complaining and see how that feels and what occurs.
My 2 cents.

[Rooney]

Originally Posted by cdoliveira

Hey guys,

Spent the past days thinking about how I can improve my quality of live and my relationships and I came to the conclusion sometimes I complain about stupid things I shouldn't be complaining about. So, in order to be happier, see the bright side of things and be grateful for the amazing life and opportunities I have, I will stop complaining for the next 2 months. That's it, not even a single bad word will come out of my mouth! (My partner is going to be so happy) hahaha

Has anyone ever tried this?

What effects you guys think this is going to have in my mind and body?

Looking forward to seeing the results of it!!!

I think this is a great thing to do! I should really try it myself.

[shoni7510]

It is okay as short-term stopgap measure as you plan to do it but for a longterm strategy it wouldn't work

[linen53]

When you begin seeing the bright side of things it becomes a habit. You literally raise your (spiritual) vibration. And you rewire your brain.

This is a short few paragraphs that explains it exactly.

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-11762...e-changes.html

I used to feel like I was victim everywhere I turned. I stopped thinking that way and started realizing how fortunate and blessed I am. It changed me and my thinking entirely.

But it has to come from your heart. You have to look for that silver lining in everything.

[cdoliveira]

Thank you all guys for the positive comments !! Yes, I am going to try and it is going to be great!!!

[wanchain]

Some time ago, I did that. I stopped not exactly the complaining but the whole negative thinking.

I stopped not because I wanted to experiment, like what you're suggesting here. I stopped because I started to sense that every word that I put forth actually had power. I noticed the effects of my words. So I became very careful. Sometimes I had the compulsive need to say something bad, but as much as possible, I stopped myself, not specifically from externalizing it, but from thinking it.

So I was doing it in reverse order compared to you. I did not experiment, but the outcome of stopping my negativity did make my life a bit easier to handle. It was a good lesson. But after the lesson I went back to my negative thinking again. @_@

[loamm122]

Wow that must be difficult to control, we tend to do it naturally. I think it would be really positive anyway, complaining is a form of seeing the obstacle, not the opportunity. Tell us how it went!