I need your input.

[candyfloss28]

I was brought up by my Grandparents since I was 18 months of age due to my parents drug addiction . Both my Grandparents were controlling and my Grandfather was anti gay. I experimented with a female friend when I was about 10. I got sexually assaulted when I was at school on a few occasions, twice by same boy. Now I'm a lesbian. I have tried stopping. I am a Christian and have prayed about it but nothing. Which do you think could be the biggest factor for this?

[TheGilbey]

Dang, I wish I was in a better position to help you. I'm not a mental health specialist, have no special training in any type of counseling, have never been raped, have never had a homosexual experience, and am male. However, I am Christian. What I can tell you is this much: I'll pray that you find peace within yourself. That might sound lame and generic, but I can't offer anything better. I can, however, also pray that you find the answers you're looking for.

[jojo50]

Originally Posted by TheGilbey

Dang, I wish I was in a better position to help you. I'm not a mental health specialist, have no special training in any type of counseling, have never been raped, have never had a homosexual experience, and am male. However, I am Christian. What I can tell you is this much: I'll pray that you find peace within yourself. That might sound lame and generic, but I can't offer anything better. I can, however, also pray that you find the answers you're looking for.

you are real, so humble

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by candyfloss28

I was brought up by my Grandparents since I was 18 months of age due to my parents drug addiction . Both my Grandparents were controlling and my Grandfather was anti gay. I experimented with a female friend when I was about 10. I got sexually assaulted when I was at school on a few occasions, twice by same boy.

Now I'm a lesbian. I have tried stopping.
I am a Christian and have prayed about it but nothing. Which do you think could be the biggest factor for this?

I haven't seen you lately, maybe that's just me.
I dunno if we will ever know what the biggest factor is.
Born gay, outer influences...maybe you were a male many times in past lives and now just still like women.
Woman are gorgeous...a lot of trouble as you probably know by now. Oy vey!
Love is love...just keep following your heart
(People often think gays follow their lust or libido...no it's a heart attraction.)
Maybe it would help to find a church that accepts gays easily?


I know...I didn't ans your question, I couldn't! 83 people have read your OP ...ur kind stuck with the likes of us!

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by jojo50

(Levi. 20:13 If a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination. They shall surely be put to death. Their blood shall be upon them).
(1Cor. 6:9,10 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God)..

And how are any of these supposed to help her as IF she has never seen these before, in bold no less to really drive in your point?
Because for the 12th x seeing these it be the magic # and she might change?
Your heart may be in the right place, but your sensitivity, tact and clarity are lacking, girlfriend.
It's the, " Hit 'em over the head with a hammer that oughtta change 'em!", mentality of bringing someone to any change.

candyfloss, if I'm outta line and you appreciated her post, I'll be quiet in the corner.

[candyfloss28]

I mean controlling I'm the sense I was not allowed to talk about boys and up unroll I was 24 when my Grandfather died I had to be home but 4.00pm.

[sky]

Originally Posted by jojo50

sorry to hear, that you went through many woes as a child. concerning your Grandparents "controlling", I don't know in what way. but many young people feel that rules by parents, means that they are being controlled. scriptures shows parents or those caring for a minor has to set rules. it teaches the child also it helps them in later years. concerning your lifestyle,
even if MANY refuses to acknowledge Jehovah God's feelings towards the act of homosexuality. he made it perfectly CLEAR before Jesus was sent to Earth ,(Levi. 20:13 If a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination. They shall surely be put to death. Their blood shall be upon them).

and after Jesus left Earth ,(1Cor. 6:9,10 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God). obviously you know that is wrong in "Gods" eyes, or you wouldn't try to change your lifestyle. great you know this and seem to accept His feeling on it ,it means your life. and "Christians" who live as 1Cor., speaks of, should make sure their NOT throwing stones.

your prayers will be answered but with hard work, so don't give up fighting. making sure you pray to the one true God, who Jesus say we must know if we want life ,(John 17:3). Jesus told us in Matt, 6:9 to pray to the Father in Heaven. he wasn't referring to himself, Jesus prayed to this God, his Father also. true we ALL are sinners, here though, (John 9:31 Now we know that God hear not sinners: but if any man be a worshiper of God, and do his will, him he hear). Jesus was referring to those who willfully sins and refuses to change. and again he's speaking about his Father. Jehovah God will answer, but he have to see one is trying. and again, HE!... has to be acknowledged and approached.

and don't expect your prayers to be answered just as soon as you finish. he does things in his own time. whatever he will for mankind, and we pray for help on that topic, he will help. understand, and many will hate this, we can call ourselves men of God. but if our actions isn't inline with what Jehovah God's words, we're NOT theirs, Jesus said so, (John 8:47 He who is of God hears God’s words; therefore you do not hear, because you are not of God). Jesus said his people ISN'T of the world ,(John 17:16).we don't follow the ways of this world. he told us to follow him and deny ourselves ,(Luke 9:23).

Jesus shows it's his FATHER'S WILL we must do ,(Matt. 7:21) so check to make sure that you are really trying to live in a way that's pleasing to Jesus Father. and to accept his feeling on ANY topic. making changes in your life, even if it means losing many and losing the old you. those who's trying to live by Jesus examples, finds themselves enjoying things they shouldn't. Satan knows of our sinful habits and weaknesses.he uses them against us, which makes it hard for us to do right ,(Rom. 7:15,16 I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate. But if I know that what I am doing is wrong, this shows that I agree that the law is good) keep fighting and praying . peace.

What an example of loving kindness to your fellow man. You can see by her Posts that she is suffering inner turmoil due to her upbringing and instead of offering a little love and understanding you throw the book at her. Practice what Jesus preached, love.... It goes a lot further than your biblical quotes.

[sky]

Originally Posted by candyfloss28

I was brought up by my Grandparents since I was 18 months of age due to my parents drug addiction . Both my Grandparents were controlling and my Grandfather was anti gay. I experimented with a female friend when I was about 10. I got sexually assaulted when I was at school on a few occasions, twice by same boy. Now I'm a lesbian. I have tried stopping. I am a Christian and have prayed about it but nothing. Which do you think could be the biggest factor for this?

Candyfloss, I would suggest that you find some support to help you find inner peace and happiness. Look for a Christian LBGT Church or Group, you will feel at home there amongst others who understand your turmoil. Look on the internet for support groups in your Area, you are not alone, being a lesbian is NOT a sin and don't let others make you feel it is...

[white pegasus]

candyfloss-first off I want to acknowledge the sexual trauma you experienced by saying I am very sorry you experienced that. Secondly I want to acknowledge that you were raised by your grandparents bc of your parents drug addictions.

My loving suggestions for you is to first seek some counseling so that you can heal from the sexual trauma-

I am unable to answer your question about what causes homosexuality.some believe it is genetics.some believe it is environment.

You are loved very much by God-don't ever forget that!!

[candyfloss28]

I went for counselling