Do you sometimes feel like this? - Page 2

BlueCat · #11 09-07-2018, 06:07 PM

All the time i feel like this and i hate it. Everytime i try to find a solution to "replace" this connection with someone else everything goes bad or there are not avalaible or some other stuff. I don't want a poly relationship nor something similar, i just wish this connection would get way weaker...
Funny thing is the other twin feels "triggered" even if they don't really show it if you want to find another person.

ONEsoul · #12 28-07-2018, 12:48 AM

Yes, and the ONLY way to break free is to do the work. Ask yourself, what triggered you? Stay quiet long enough, and ALONE long enough, to force yourself to face your demons. Until you understand the triggers, and understand it has wayyyy more to do with YOU, than her, you will be STUCK. Much love to you, on this journey. Feeling this way does NOT make you weak!! it is the greatest gift you could be given, to find your own inner STRENGTH. It is hell every week, just a new version of it, UNTIL...:):)

Mysticrose37 · #13 31-07-2018, 01:22 PM

You could have written a page out of my diary in one way. The thing I am the one still having relationships as I like to put obstacles between us. As the intensity truely frightens me. I fell in love I thought once at first sign, later I discovered it must have been lust at first sight.

My twin has been in my life five years. It's crazy the journey. I recently said goodbye, as I started to question everything. I wonder do we create this fantasy as a way to escape the loneliness of our reality. I have been focusing on my career and pushing relationships further down the ladder. Do you believe that you could feel the void?

Delay_Reaction · #14 01-08-2018, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Mysticrose37

You could have written a page out of my diary in one way. The thing I am the one still having relationships as I like to put obstacles between us. As the intensity truely frightens me. I fell in love I thought once at first sign, later I discovered it must have been lust at first sight.

My twin has been in my life five years. It's crazy the journey. I recently said goodbye, as I started to question everything. I wonder do we create this fantasy as a way to escape the loneliness of our reality. I have been focusing on my career and pushing relationships further down the ladder. Do you believe that you could feel the void?

For me, the longer this goes on, the more I feel it was all just a fantasy.

Saw my twin last night. I didn't feel anything much at all. I don't know what it was. She smelled differently and it kinda repelled me.

This is 2 months after I blocked her on all social media so I have no idea what she's been up to nor can she contact me (unless she calls). I know she is dating someone, but I don't dig for details. She doesn't discuss it with me either, so that's perfectly fine by me.

I do not encourage pushing relationships down the ladder. I would give the opposite advice, which is to engage in as many different relationships as possible (friends, family, romantic, business).

Having more options to interact with more people seems to put all of that loneliness on the back burner.

When I do feel the void, I try not to think that it's due to some mystical connection I share with one person. I don't try to fill it with insignificant relationships either.

I feel it should come to a point when is enough is enough and you won't allow yourself to feel like there is a void, because there isn't.

Mysticrose37 · #15 01-08-2018, 09:16 AM

Then if you reacted differently too her smell. Is this possible it is not a twin? As I don't believe anything changes ones true essence. Is that not what our higher self is calling for? Mine doesn't talk to me at all. I haven't blocked him simply told him goodbye. At first he didn't believe me. Now he has been quiet for a week. I figure he has a new distraction in his life. He often does that when he thinks our connection is to strong.

leader_of_ten · #16 01-08-2018, 12:34 PM

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I do not encourage pushing relationships down the ladder. I would give the opposite advice, which is to engage in as many different relationships as possible (friends, family, romantic, business).

Agreed (in as much as I am in the hermit phase of my recovery, lol).

I was looking for someone just like myself in the one person, and it did violence to my empathy, as I was blinkered. Now, I am able to see elements of myself in everyone everywhere, and it's been so restorative. I mean, I still don't 'get' people in general, but to be kind, polite, patient, these things come a lot easier than they used to.

Maybe we are light workers after all...

7luminaries · #17 01-08-2018, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Mysticrose37

Then if you reacted differently too her smell. Is this possible it is not a twin? As I don't believe anything changes ones true essence. Is that not what our higher self is calling for? Mine doesn't talk to me at all. I haven't blocked him simply told him goodbye. At first he didn't believe me. Now he has been quiet for a week. I figure he has a new distraction in his life. He often does that when he thinks our connection is to strong.

I'm just popping in here to comment from the perspective of a healer...
Re: smell, this could be caused by the effects of hormonal BC on the system, the skin, the glands, etc. Well known effect of BC in many if not most folks to some degree, and there could be some change in her energetic field etc. and loads of other weird and unintended effects. If he is sensitive then he may notice these things. I too am sensitive to smell and vastly prefer natural scents, natural skin, natural smells, and other fresh scents found in nature without too much overlay or weird recombination.

Additionally, hormonal BC causes changes in the chemicals in our pheremones, even if they have no scent. Her system is now chemically giving off the message that she is infertile (implying she is unhealthy), which is picked up on a subconscious level.

It may be that she is on BC or on a new type of BC, since she has recently started seeing someone else. So...odd as it may sound, the poster makes sense...although I agree that normally this wouldn't change any core love you have for the other person as a soul.

There could also be many other things involved, such as the respect issue and whether he respects what she's doing. It is possible to lack respect or not condone all of what a person does and yet still to love him or her...that may also be a part of what is going on with DR.

To DR: I would honour your feelings and give yourself time, so that you can come back around to a place of love for yourself and for others both...in your own good time. It is possible to love someone authentically and wish only their best, regardless of who you each may or may not be partnered with. It doesn't mean you ever need to take abuse or let others use you in any way. I hope that you can set healthy boundaries for your interactions and if you need to step away for a while and look after yourself, then I hope that you can do so.

Peace & blessings

7L

ONEsoul · #18 11-08-2018, 12:08 AM

DR.....You can try and convince yourself from now until doomsday, that this connection was less than real. Those thoughts will never resonate truth to you, because it is not truth. BUT...that connection should NOT enslave you, and if it does, you have work to do. So how do you get pass this? I don't know how YOU do this. We are two different souls. I can tell you how I did it. I dug deep and stayed busy. I found a way to do something meaningful, to make someones else life better every week. I began to find joy in my service to others. Does this mean that I dont have very lonely times at night, that only my other half can satisfy? No, not at all. Those times remain constant, but I send love as best I can, and make it through.....You will be OK DR... Trust me, if I can get through this so can you xoxo

ForeverRestless · #19 11-08-2018, 01:42 AM

100% to everything you just said. It's 100% my experience. I guess I should be glad that we have this "support group" of sorts and none of us are alone in this experience, but man, if it doesn't hurt. 41 months and counting...

ONEsoul · #20 22-08-2018, 01:03 AM

DR....You know your truth...You feel it with every fiber of your being...There are no words spoken here that will help you. Unless you get rid of your ego, and tell your beloved how you truly feel about her, you are wasted. She is waiting for you. Believe it, believe me You are nothing but a coward , unless you act Please do not come here for sympathy. Either man up,or go home