Can emanating a certain kind of energy draw in certain kinds of people?

I've noticed that I have a recurring issue that happens too often to me and I feel it is only a coincidence in the lightest sense.

You see, I have a tendency to draw in and be attracted by people with emotional issues. It's not like I'm aware of the issues at first either. By the time I realize they have issues I've been dating them about a month, and the relationship winds up being harmful for me.

I feel it may be something about my aura. I'm very kind and loving, and I may be unknowingly projecting that energy on everyone around me. I don't know much about auras or how to control them either. But if someone feels good every time they're near me, of course they could get confused, right? Especially by those that are in pain in one way or another.

Any advice or knowledge would be useful.

this sounds more like an amotional issue than anything to do with an aura,

it also sounds like you are very trusting.

i suspect what you're projecting is an impression that you will put up with somebody's **** even though you wouldn't consciously. people who have 'issues' look for certain partners.

i would say just be more discerning-get to know the person before you nvest any emotional ties.

i am definately not a therapist, but i do have decades of life experience.

good luck.

[Sorai Rai Aorai]

Dear Insensitive,

I would suggest looking into the Law of Attraction and trying to identify what you're putting out there that is drawing these people to you. Although it may be reflected in your aura, since it's an interpersonal issue it may have something to do with your mentality, behavior, outlook, speech, boundaries, etc.

You can also try to become aware of subtle signs that would tip you off earlier on about the people's emotional issues. For example, when you were with these people, what little idiosyncrasies were part of those patterns, which would you would have been able to notice earlier on if you knew they indicated such things?

Justin

Don't take this the wrong way, but like attracts like. Life is always a perfect mirror of what is inside you. Always and without exception.

So praise the fact that you are noticing this. You can't notice what you're not. It means that you have something you probably need to work on, emotionally. Whatever you are noticing about anybody, whether it be criticism or something you really admire, it is something that is also very strong within yourself. If it's something you admire, then you also have that kind of potential and you need to find it. If it's something you dislike, that means it's a "shadow quality" of your own that you need to embrace/work on. Once you embrace it, you'll be free from it.

So you are wanting emotionally stable and together. So you need to be emotionally stable and together, whatever that means for you personally.

I'm not attacking you here. I've attracted plenty of interesting and painful mirrors myself.

[Blue Sky]

LotusRise,

I've attracted a lot of painful mirrors also. I agree with you when you say that probably it means that we have something we need to work on emotionally.

HI Insensitive1,

I think it is a lesson to be learned. And it will repeat, inumerous times, until you learn.
It took me years to see this...and I am still suffering a lot with these mirrors, this is still happening with me, like a cycle one after another. The difference is that now I can see things I need to change and accept in me.
Sometimes I do not understand why this pain is so intense. But I also know that it is only due to my decision to feel it.
If we decided to stop and to give up on this feeling...the pain will finish.