Can't stop thinking about this guy

Originally Posted by mysterious

I would have to disagree with you, not everything is so clear cut.

If he wasn't interested he would have just gone on his way after we bumped into each other. Also If he really wasn't interested he wouldn't have even come up to me in the first place and to stand so close.

(I have had this happen before from another guy in the past who I know had a thing for me, the silent standing and looking thing, not to boast but just to say that this does happen in this way)

I agree here with you mysterious. Men not always talk in these situations or smile or do anything else but to just look at the girl they like. Maybe he was also shy. Not all guys find an easy task to approach a girl and start talking to her.
But you did noticed he was interested, and that he came to you.
Maybe an indicator of his interest in you was also the way he was looking at you?

Originally Posted by mysterious

I would have to disagree with you, not everything is so clear cut.

If he wasn't interested he would have just gone on his way after we bumped into each other. Also If he really wasn't interested he wouldn't have even come up to me in the first place and to stand so close.

(I have had this happen before from another guy in the past who I know had a thing for me, the silent standing and looking thing, not to boast but just to say that this does happen in this way)

You could well be right and me, wrong. There's only so much one can tell from a brief resumé of what's going on, so follow your feelings; let your heart lead you.

[mysterious]

Originally Posted by ephirex

I agree here with you mysterious. Men not always talk in these situations or smile or do anything else but to just look at the girl they like. Maybe he was also shy. Not all guys find an easy task to approach a girl and start talking to her.
But you did noticed he was interested, and that he came to you.
Maybe an indicator of his interest in you was also the way he was looking at you?

Yes, thank you, thats exactly what i am saying.

Also thanks for the other insight, next time i have to be ready to say something.
I just hope he didn't feel that I wasn't interested in him (because I was) when I thought to myself it would never go anywhere and so turned my back towards him - even though I did smile and forever gaze at his direction and not budge when he came over to me. After I think he felt confused as to what happened with me turning from hot to cold, I know I would feel confused as well.

Originally Posted by ephirex

I think he meant that it seemed that you were missing opportunities with these guys by not talking to them or doing something. But in fact you were filtering(not choosing them so you can chose the right guy when he comes.). But you were filtering at a subconscious level. Meaning that you were not aware that you were actually filtering.

Originally Posted by mysterious

Wow I didn't know I or we as people could do that, I am totally unaware I was doing that. I feel that I lost an opportunity since I don't provide myself with many of them and thats why I feel like this with loss and worry of ending up alone

Actually I don't think you were filtering at a subconscious level. I posted that to explain what sublevel meant, given that he did not replied back.
To me, is as you say, you didn't talked to him because you were shy at that moment.

[mysterious]

I just want to add something.
On two occurrences I had a feeling of Déjà vu; once when I walked past him and the day before when his group arrived. Seems so weird.

Does this mean anything?

Originally Posted by mysterious

I just want to add something.
On two occurrences I had a feeling of Déjà vu; once when I walked past him and the day before when his group arrived. Seems so weird.

Does this mean anything?

Don't know really. I don't know much about Déjà vu.

Originally Posted by mysterious

Yes, thank you, thats exactly what i am saying.

Also thanks for the other insight, next time i have to be ready to say something.
I just hope he didn't feel that I wasn't interested in him (because I was) when I thought to myself it would never go anywhere and so turned my back towards him - even though I did smile and forever gaze at his direction and not budge when he came over to me. After I think he felt confused as to what happened with me turning from hot to cold, I know I would feel confused as well.

I think you need to take action the next time this happens. Otherwise you will feel regretful. Just start a small conversation and continue from there. Lose your fear and go for it.