Partner crying dream

Ladyrose92 · #1 03-06-2018, 09:12 AM

Before I woke up I can remember I was dreaming of my partner crying. It was just me and him in space, bright salmony orange was surrounding us and bright light but no objects. I think he was actually just sitting in a fold up wooden chair. He was crying continuously and I was consoling him. I didn't know what was wrong but nonetheless I was supporting him to make sure he felt someone was there for him.

Yesterday we hardly spoke much, I know there is something troubling him. I didn't want to push too hard, I asked him a few times what was wrong and he kept saying nothing although I could see the sadness in his eyes. I felt he didn't want to be a burden to me. Also I was sending an email for him yesterday, when I done it, my inner voice told me to type in "a" which is the initial of his ex, a friend he had for 15 years and ended up sleeping with before we go together. When we had our first miscarriage we wasn't close emotionally even though I tried, and I found out he had been speaking to her. Anyway it come up with two of her emails one was for TFL which I hadn't seen before. He said it was coming up from years ago as it's his old account he has kept using and he hasn't spoken to her in 5 years since the above time. He said if I wasn't so sensitive he probably would speak to her as she was a good friend but he wouldn't talk to her through email. I let it go, i want to believe him but then part of me wonders if I am just being naive but at the same time I didn't want to accuse him of something he hasn't done especially how fragile he is mentally at the moment as he has started taking medication to help with how he feels. He has said to me he doesn't want to burden me with his problems but I hate seeing he has a problem and it affects how he is but he won't talk about it. So most of yesterday we sat in each other's company with some interaction but it was minimal. This is what happened yesterday so I don't know if this dream of confirming how upset he is on the inside.

Michelle11 · #2 03-06-2018, 02:22 PM

I suspect the dream is a reflection of you wanting to give him a hug and help him feel better. You did it energetically even if you couldn't do it physically.

As for the rest, I would say the best thing is to not push him. do what you can to let him know you are safe to open up to but he has to be the one to open up. If he does sense that you are feeling worried about his faithfulness he may be reacting to that. When we engage in fear and worry others can pick up that energy and react to it. he may not feel that sense of insecurity from his ex and it is why he can open up to her but I know that it can be hard to trust others when you have been raised by the type of parents you were raised by but Matt is not your parents. he is more like you, emotionally sensitive. But in many ways I do agree that it would be better for the relationship if you were the one he confided in and leaned on so maybe try to have a heart to heart with him on how you can get closer in that regard. What is holding him back and question why you fear infidelity. Is it really coming from him or you? You may need to confront your own fear first before he will feel safe opening up to you.

Ladyrose92 · #3 04-06-2018, 11:55 AM

I see, I'm glad to hear that probably reached him on an energetic level.

We had a lovely day together yesterday, just relaxed and enjoyed each others company. I took your advise and didn't push him but just said I hope he knows I'm always here for him and if there is anything I do that makes him not feel comfortable telling me certain things, I hope he will tell me and I will do my best by him. So hopefully that will be enough. I do have a fear of being cheated on though so I will look at this deeper, thank you!