Leaving Your Love Life to the Universe

[Bornonthecusp]

Originally Posted by MissCreativeSpirit

I think I might have a new relationship. And I suspect could work out REALLY lo g term. I deliberately manifested certain matching desired characteristics.

What do you feel about this person? Any sensations come up?

[Exa4310]

You can ask for it to the universe. But make sure you won't obsess over it and just leave everything to the universe

[MissCreativeSpirit]

I'm confused. Maybe I need to date and flirt with others? I'm mostly frustrated I ended up moving out of his area temporarily and I wish he would come to see me for a weekend.

You seem conflicted. Elsewhere you report that men are attracted to you but not the one of your desires.
It might be better to forget the "universe". The universe gave you the powers of discernment and the ability to flirt and probably thinks you should do more work yourself! It also mischievously gives us the ability to set in stone a list of requirements over which we don't like to compromise. Maybe it tests our sincerity?


What have you given to "the universe" in exchange for the work you want it to do?

[MissCreativeSpirit]

No, I am into intentional manifesting. I am going to let it be for now.

[MissCreativeSpirit]

Today I let go around love. I am preoccupied with moving anyway. New guys are in the city I am moving to anyway. I have said hi to one on a dating site.

[MissCreativeSpirit]

When I set intentions I struggle to trust Zi do not have to force them into fruition. This hoes doubly with how I attract men-energetically. I just left AZ and a guy that had one crucial trait I wanted that was new. Unfortunately he had several unmatching to me traits as well. Another forum calls this, ""driftwood". Now I will be where I hope to want to spend the rest of my life. And Zi know there is a massive pool of men in this location. I have faith that a man with this basic matching trait and several more can be magnatized in via the magic of the universe we call alaw of attraction. This is when I am very open to it,

But you see, somewhere along the line compromises have to be made. No individual stands still, personality/behaviour-wise. A perfect match today may diverge next week/month/year unless you keep very close and adapt to each other. Then again, people with seemingly little in common could grow very close to each other. I strongly believe it's about "getting used to each other."

Many long-term relationships have weathered many storms but that magnetism you speak of keeps them together because the people know (wittingly of otherwise) that potentially they're the best each other could have.

It comes down to expectations, really. Are you expecting a man to fit in with your every whimsy, every mood? Are you expecting to control him? His emotions? Do you want him to kowtow to your every need? (This is quite aside from the carnal side of life. That fundamentally will never last... if you want someone forever, sex becomes less practical as you move on in years. So you need to have what it takes to converge to oneness without that. I mean, if someone wants to go for sex, fine, but don't expect love to emerge from it. The thrill may not last. Then again for a few lucky couples it does...depends how you treat it in your relationship I suppose.)

If I had to voice a few ingredients for a long-term relationship, I'd say a) you have to like the person (which is different from love in the conventional sense of the word) you have to be good friends, probably best friends; b) you have to be collaborative and supportive. On both sides that is. c) you have to allow them their habits (assuming they're acceptable at all), to be themselves. d) You have to be mutually honest.
You're unlikely to meet a total match that lasts any length of time without being adaptable to each other - recognising that the other person has expectations of you too. Because as you "get to know" each other both your reactions will change subtly.

As I see it.

[MissCreativeSpirit]

I want to marry a man who was born and raised in the United Kingdom.

I want him to find me, show up until my path just like that.