Solving Problems

Hello All!

I was wondering how you all go about solving problems?

What works wonders for me is actually going to the root of the demand I have in the moment I see a problem. For example: if someone is doing something I don't like, the demand I have is "they shouldn't be doing that".

I take that belief and question it. I find out if it is true. I explore how I react when I believe it- what it feels like to hold that demand (or belief). Then I can see if it is - in reality - helping me or hurting me.

This is the only way I have found that works: Inquiring into the mind (it is actually the Work of Byron Katie that I'm describing here).

I find that without taking this approach, it is easy for me to resist the "problem" that I see -- and that always enlarges it in my mind.

"The Resistance to the disturbance is the disturbance."

Rebecca

Zozja,

Exactly!

Ofcourse they are doing whatever they're doing but the shouldn't is in the one suffering over it!

Thanks for the reminder,

Bob23.

P.S. Maybe I shouldn't have put a P.S. here but alas....