Why twins not treated equally / fairly?

[TXGemini]

Everyone - I took a long hiatus away from the board. I am still wrestling with the twin concept. No matter how hard I work to stay away and not communicate with him, ultimately I end up caving.

I don't mind us being in each other's lives to emotionally support each other (i.e., spiritual siblings or best friends) but I am very disappointed and perturbed as to why one of us has to be 'shortchanged' in the 3D world?

Why did he get to have children (previous relationship) and a current marriage, and I remain single? I've always wanted to be married with a family and I've never got the chance to have either. It's truly painful to my spirit and soul.

So, for everyone who believes in twins can you explain why one twin always 'suffers' more trauma (physically/emotionally/spiritually) than the other?

Does it ever balance out? Why the unbalance? I can't seem to find any source or reason for this discrepancy.

What about the twin that gets all the ****, when does she/he get reparation/recognition? In my case, finding a husband? I finally just asked my twin point blank to play matchmaker for me. He said he would, but I'm kind of doubtful, that he will go out of his way to introduce me to any single guys he knows.

[FairyCrystal]

You'll get a husband once you let go of your victim mentality and stop latching on to someone who doesn't want you and isn't available to you.

[TXGemini]

Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

You'll get a husband once you let go of your victim mentality and stop latching on to someone who doesn't want you and isn't available to you.

I'm not latching on to him. He and I are co-workers and friends. I don't think of him that way. Where in my post did I say I was latching on him?

I've never had a relationship ever---so how it that a victim mentality?

You are reading more into it.

Not all twins are romantic, some are platonic.

[Rachella]

Originally Posted by TXGemini

I'm not latching on to him. He and I are co-workers and friends. I don't think of him that way. Where in my post did I say I was latching on him?

I've never had a relationship ever---so how it that a victim mentality?

You are reading more into it.

Not all twins are romantic, some are platonic.

TX Gemini, I remember your story from a while ago and I hope you're doing well. For that little I can tell you, I believe that with deep soul connections we sort of experience life from opposite points of view and yet we come to the same conclusions. With the person I believe I have a deep soul bond, very often our life paths have been parallel, but going opposite directions. For a long time, years ago, I have been in a long term relationship and thinking to settle down, while they were single, travelling and enjoying freedom. Now the roles have switched, but I am sure that if we ever get in touch again they will have come to similar realisations as the ones that hit me over the last years. I gave you this example, but there are many others regarding our life, family, friends, choices.
That being said, I truly wish you to find the love you deserve very very soon

[TXGemini]

As Mary Jane has stated on her YouTube channel Soulful Revolution, some twins are further along their journey than their matches. In MJ's case, her twin has opted off the journey to lead a hermit life, which has caused MJ to be a twin to herself.

Which kind of leads me back to my original question: are twins treated equally or fairly by the universe throughout the journey?

Example: Again, in my case my twin and I are platonic/sibling connection, even though we started off seriously squabbling. I absolutely wanted to keep my distance from him and not interact with him in any fashion. A lot of fighting occurred and ended up in a truce orchestrated by my supervisor.

Once we got over that rankle, I discovered that a lot of what I wanted out of life he had already achieved and vice versa. I wanted marriage and children, he was married with grown children. He was working on his bachelor's and I had just finished my professional degree.

We were more 'opposite' each other than twinning.

He's envious of my job role, I'm envious of his family. I guess grass is always greener on the other side. I still think one twin gets shorted, would like to know why. MJ touches on it in her YT videos but really doesn't give an explanation, just work on self, stay in your lane, and keep moving forward.

But what originally happened in order to cause the discrepancy, does anyone know? Especially for those of us in platonic connections.

You would think if you were twins you would be balanced (equal) rather than unbalanced in life, or is that too logical?

[TXGemini]

Originally Posted by Rachella

For that little I can tell you, I believe that with deep soul connections we sort of experience life from opposite points of view and yet we come to the same conclusions. With the person I believe I have a deep soul bond, very often our life paths have been parallel, but going opposite directions. For a long time, years ago, I have been in a long term relationship and thinking to settle down, while they were single, travelling and enjoying freedom. Now the roles have switched, but I am sure that if we ever get in touch again they will have come to similar realisations as the ones that hit me over the last years. I gave you this example, but there are many others regarding our life, family, friends, choices.
That being said, I truly wish you to find the love you deserve very very soon

Hi Rachella! That makes sense. Mr. X and I were at each other's throats when we first met. Now we are great friends. Our co-workers who remember the fights from years ago still can't believe the change of how we look out for each other.

Sometimes it's easy, and then other times it's hard. The hard part has nothing to do with Mr. X, it has to do with me. Sometimes I feel like I did something wrong--time moved so fast and it passed me by. Other times I wonder am invisible to the opposite sex, giving off bad signals, or something. My friends keep reassuring it's just not my time.

[Angel44]

Shakespeare said, “There is nothing either good or bad but, thinking makes it so.” It appears you have bought into the lie that the good life is a spouse, children, education, a good job, etc. so those who “get to have it” have won the prize. A real twin comes to wake us out of that shallow thinking. Having a spouse doesn’t make a charmed life. Being whole and peaceful within yourself makes a wonderful life...and all else will be added.

That trauma you are suffering is all in your mind. The difference between what your life IS and how you THINK it should be. Accept it for what it is and the suffering will leave.

My twin has been married for almost 40 yrs and I have had a series of bad marriages /relationships. He and his wife live separate lives under the same roof. They do nothing together, yet they remain together. My life is peaceful and drama free. I can either buy into the illusion and suffer or know the truth and let it set me free. I choose the later. Spiritual or material world? That’s the choice, however the beautiful thing is once you dedicate your life to the spiritual path, your material desires will manifest, including the love of your life!!

Trust me when I tell you the more separated you are from your true self, the more you feel the need for companionship and other outer people/things. I have been where you are and some!!! However my desire for companionship is slowly fading away. My desire for anything in the 3D world is fading away.

The unbalance is in your mind. The disappointment is all in your mind. Like FairyCrystal said “Let go of your victim mentality” No harshness intended, I’ve been there, thought that.

You will attract your perfect partner when you stop giving off “lack” vibes to the universe. “Those who HAVE will get more” Be grateful for everything in your life, don’t envy others. The more you vibrate vibes of contentment and gratefulness for what you have, the universe will deliver more. Vibrate envy and lack and that’s exactly what you’ll get.

[TXGemini]

Angel, thank you for the reply. However you and the previous poster are still missing the root if the question that I am asking. I am asking the fundamental question of why the imbalance between the twinship in the first place. This a question of how does it start or better still why does it start this way?

Does one twin have more spiritual and emotional "stuff" to lug around while the other is more of a vagabond per se? In this case I would be the vagabond since all my immediate family is deceased. Sometimes it's painful to listen to my twin since he still has his family (parents, siblings, etc.) and I'm alone.

So there has to be some type of hypothesis or theory behind the twin concept regarding each twin's profile....I don't believe in reincarnation but is it rooted in reincarnation, Eastern philosophy for reparation of previous sins/past lives, Christian philosophy, what?

I believe in the release and be happy philosophy but also the more problems I'm going through....serious problems. I was speaking with .y assistant the other day and she is having a hard time too. She is Hindu and she said something that ran home. She said she was wondering if she brought over baggage from a previous lifetime or burning off karma. Since I'm Catholic we do not believe this but what is the philosophy behind twins?

It has been chaos in my life every since I met mine.My life has never been easy but I just want it to be back like it used to be before the chaos. I was to get out of 'washing machine'.

I've been trying for 3 years to find another job and today is my first interview. It's like the universe won't allow me to even make any decisions about my own life anymore. I've read where some people walk always from this journey, why cant I get off the mery go round? It's like this invisible hand directing my steps and only letting me get so far. Two steps forward and one step back. I even talked to my priest who said God is protects his children. Maybe so....maybe He doesn't want me to do anymore than what I am doing

[TXGemini]

Angel, you mentioned that all the trauma I am feeling is all in my mind yet I've lost all my family to death and I am all alone. You and FsiryCrystal say to stop playing a victim. So how do you stop bad things from continuing to happen to you? What if you are born under a 'bad' sign and in turn your twin is born under a 'good ' sign which is what my assistant has stated....one twin carries the burden and the other twin reaps the rewards....again where is the philosophy and hypotheses to the twin mythology. I haven't found it. And everyone's story is different. So it could be possible...and it does coincide with the classic Greek twin mythology of the ying and yang principle if opposites. I'm not talking the romantic relationships here but rather fraternal, symbiotic empathic relationships.

[Angel44]

TXGemini, I do believe in reincarnation and I believe I chose the TF route to catalyze my awakening. During the beginning and middle of this journey, I too wanted to get off this merry-go-round but my Higher Self wasn’t having it. I was mad at my TF because his life “appeared” to be normal and mine “appeared” to be in chaos. I tried dating to escape and have fun, but every time I met a nice man he would “mysteriously” disappear. We’re talking weird circumstances. I finally had to let it go kicking and screaming because my Higher Self wanted me to be alone. I had to be by myself for my spiritual growth and to learn I need no one else for my happiness. For the past few years, I have been isolated from friends and family. In the beginning I cried many tears of loneliness, now I embrace my aloneness. I needed solitude to grow. I get it now but I didn’t get it then. I thought it was “bad” things happening to me.

This is an “Inner” journey so you can’t judge by appearances. What may look like an “imbalance” to you may not even exist. No one can really say what is going on in another’s life. That’s like looking at Facebook photos and posts and thinking someone is living the best life until you discover the “real” truth.

The questions you are asking cannot be answered on an intellectual basis. Turn within and ask the questions, experience the answers for yourself. You may have your entire belief system turned upside down. Two amazing things you WILL find is you are Never alone and death doesn’t exist.

Since this journey, I’ve lost my career, my marriage and later an engagement, my home, filed bankrupt, my car, my beautiful furnishings, friends, even my health at one point. I was living in a 5000sg ft home and now I’m in an apartment driving a used car retired on less than half of my salary. But believe it or not, I’m so grateful for the journey. I have a peace I have never had. I feel amazing!! I know I don’t have to struggle for a thing in life. I know I’m loved and cared for. I am grateful for the seemingly “bad” things that occurred. As I look back over my life, all the “good” and “bad” had to occur to get me to this point. Now I know there is no “good” or “bad” just my mind making judgements on what IS and regardless I’m okay and will always be.

Stop struggling against the current, relax and let the universe guide you peacefully downstream. Let the perfect job and perfect man come to you. Let the invisible hand direct your steps. Take your hands off!! Turn within my friend.