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Old 15-11-2019, 12:05 AM
Shivani Devi Shivani Devi is offline
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I am sorry to read about your situation and experience. Like others, I strongly suggest that you contact whatever Mental Health Services that exist within your local area. This is something you should not have to deal with alone, even IF you could!

There is always the risk of becoming codependent to another's mental illness which can severely affect your own, no matter your good intentions. I am not a "tough love" advocate, but can you honestly provide the appropriate care and support your friend really needs? There are professional, trained people who do that sort of thing...you know, making sure they take their meds and such?

In Australia, we have a service called ARAFMI (Association of Relatives and Friends of the Mentally Ill) which handles such matters with trained counselors, respite services and ongoing support for both the Mentally Ill and their primary caregivers to make the transition into a more sustainable and therapeutic environment for both.

After a short search on the internet, I found this:

If you search around, you are bound to find resources for people who have mental illness...who are experiencing homelessness...who have friends at their wits end trying to accommodate them...not only physically but mentally, emotionally... financially...

Over here in Australia, we have Partners In Recovery which is a peer-based support program:


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Old 15-11-2019, 03:00 AM
Shivani Devi Shivani Devi is offline
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This is just an addendum to the above and it is only a humble suggestion presenting an alternative viewpoint from a clinical perspective.

It is difficult to establish the capacity for responsibility in cases of psychotic illness and that judgment call is better left to a treating psychiatrist and not friends or family.

There is no way to tell if a mentally ill person is manipulative through conscious choice, or whether it is a compulsion or self-preservation strategy of the subconscious mind due to years of traumatic abuse...therefore, the only person who is going to understand and appreciate this "tough love" is you...because your friend will just see it as being kicked out, without knowing or understanding the reasons why.

If she has visited the hospital and the doctor has diagnosed her with a psychotic illness, then surely this needs to be followed up and followed through with therapy and medication and a referral to a specialist and script for antipsychotic medication should have been given at the hospital visit.

Your friend needs to understand that going and seeing the doctor regularly and taking the medication will also help her prayers to God get through (if that hasn't already happened) and this needs to be a "condition of stay" if she wants to live with you and you are happy to have her there as a friend, but only IF she adheres to the treatment plan because you cannot help someone who cannot help themselves..however, nursing a friend through recovery from mental illness can be very stressful, but also very rewarding and will provide many insights into your own nature...but it requires a lot of patience, love and certain sacrifices (you have already sacrificed your job to take care of her) and she needs to understand (if that is possible) that neither you nor she can do it alone because that isn't working out.

She may decide to leave of her own accord if you insist that regular shrink appointments, taking meds, praying in her own room etc are now the "terms and conditions" of staying with you but it is best to set these ground rules and boundaries..better late than never and the only thing you are asking of her is to try and take a proactive role in her own recovery...as a friend and hopefully she will be able to understand this.

If she can't or if she agrees to what you say but makes no attempt or effort to get help, then you need to make it clear that you just cannot continue to support two lives with your limited resources and instead of kicking her out on the street, see if you can get Social Services to intervene to prevent that unfortunate situation from eventuating...even if it means hospitalization for a while because that would be just what the doctor ordered.

All the best and good luck with it.

By the way, if you could tell me the country you live in, I will see what I can do from my end...I still have a few karmic cheques that need cashing..
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Old 15-11-2019, 03:55 AM
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Originally Posted by almondeyez68
Hello everyone,
I'm reaching out and asking for prayers. I think I got myself into a fix and really don't know what to do about it. A friend of mine got themselves in a bind and I thought I was helping them out by putting them up in my home for awhile, until they got comfortable. My friend has had meltdown in my house, struggling with all kinds of spiritual demons,which we all have. I've taken her to the hospital and the doctors diagnose her with paranoid and halusenation (please excuse my spelling).Now I feel stuck cause she can't leave my house,no job and don't have a will to look for one. Now she's praying in my home,pacing and I'm very uncomfortable with people praying in my house, who's unstable. I feel the frequency have shift differently in my home since she's been here. How can I get her to leave or what should I do? She's been in my house for 6 months and nothing is working for her. Something doesn't seem right. Thank you all for your responses🤗


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Old 15-11-2019, 09:12 AM
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Originally Posted by almondeyez68
I've taken her to the hospital and the doctors diagnose her with paranoid and halusenation (please excuse my spelling).

Based on this and what you said about not wanting to put her out and also what Shivani posted, if I were you I'd go back to the hospital and speak with the diagnosing physician and explain the situation. The hospital should know the options, referral procedures and contacts for available services provided by local government. If there's a course of action that would present treatment options (therapy, medications, even a short hospital stay) and continue your shared living arrangements with boundaries and consequences for violating those boundaries that's the best you can do.
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