Nervous 17 year old

my 17 year old daughter is struggling with anxiety. her school was shut down and she was transferred to a school she would rather die than go to. Also there is so much drama in schools these days and she has had to deal with people she doesn't know making things up about her, seems like it's just the thing to do these days. She also is going to school with her ex boyfriend who she broke up with because of the way he treated her but yet claims she still loves him, her father and I are against this because of things that happened during their relationship. She wants to be with him but knows she can't. she's best friends with his sister so she sees him all the time. He's giving ultimatums. In the end she's got the anxiety from all of this and is getting an ulcer. Most meds for anxiety from the doctor do the opposite for her of what they are supposed to, makes her agitated or out on planet Zoomba. She's tried Galvascon for her stomach but she said it makes her stomach hurt worse and throws up. Anyone have any natural remedies for any of this without going to the doctor? He had her on Zoloft and she had a bipolar reaction (which she's not) and he wanted her to go to the behavioral hospital when I just wanted her off of the med because it was obvious it wasn't for her. I weaned her off of it.

checkout

cchrint.org

mindfreedom.org

antipsychiatry.org

if interesting

maybe seeing a counselor or social worker who is against non-consensual "mental health" treatment

make sure she is getting enough exercise, eating enough but not too much and eating healthy.

does yoga or tai chi or aikido or karate interest her? maybe volleyball or something else?

as a parent ... make sure you are healthy too...

i might suggest ACIM for you as a parent since this is a spiritual forum and i am giving you nothing more than anecdotal information here in this post.

cheers.

we all suffer from problems in living.

oh also maybe google "szasz quotes" i like those. :)

I think all of what i have written here could count as "natural" remedies. lolol

:)

and make sure that she knows if she seriously threatens suicide to anyone (demonstrates having a PLAN, MEANS to carry out that plan, and INTENT to carry out that plan) that they WILL strip her of her rights and basically imprison her or force treatment on her. that is my understanding of the law...

she has a right to know the law...

just like if someone seriously threatens others or threatens others at an airport they will get in a lot of trouble too. (that is my understanding anyway)

Hi Earthprowler,

Have you thought about a qualified aromatherapist? They are able to treat a variety of types of anxiety based on the specific symptoms/ issues that the client has. They will then blend especially for your daughter the correct mix of that oils and can adjust/ use different ones each time you see them. It doesn't just have to be massage either, if your daughter doesn't like them, but they should be able to provide the mix so that they can be added to the bath, dropped onto a pillow before bed, in a perfume roller bottle so they can be rolled onto points around the body... just a thought,

Or maybe reflexology, this balances the whole body after a course of treatments and the specific areas of the body that relate to anxiety would be treated in each session, apart from being incredibly relaxing, which can help with anxiety in itself, the balancing should also help. It would probably need a course of 6 treatments to start with though.

I don't know if you have rescue remedy in the US (by Bach Flower Remedies) but this is good on a daily basis.

I hope she starts to feel better soon.

[Honza]

I recommend Mimmulus or Aspen - Bach Flower Remedies

They both deal with anxiety.

Mimmulus is for fears that you are aware of. Aspen is for un-nameable fears.

Rescue Remedy is very helpful too.

Originally Posted by earthprowler

my 17 year old daughter is struggling with anxiety. her school was shut down and she was transferred to a school she would rather die than go to. Also there is so much drama in schools these days and she has had to deal with people she doesn't know making things up about her, seems like it's just the thing to do these days. She also is going to school with her ex boyfriend who she broke up with because of the way he treated her but yet claims she still loves him, her father and I are against this because of things that happened during their relationship. She wants to be with him but knows she can't. she's best friends with his sister so she sees him all the time. He's giving ultimatums. In the end she's got the anxiety from all of this and is getting an ulcer. Most meds for anxiety from the doctor do the opposite for her of what they are supposed to, makes her agitated or out on planet Zoomba. She's tried Galvascon for her stomach but she said it makes her stomach hurt worse and throws up. Anyone have any natural remedies for any of this without going to the doctor? He had her on Zoloft and she had a bipolar reaction (which she's not) and he wanted her to go to the behavioral hospital when I just wanted her off of the med because it was obvious it wasn't for her. I weaned her off of it.

Please find out if she's being harassed or bullied in any way. If so, then remind the Principal that s/he is required by Title VII of the Civil Rights act to provide a safe and hostile-free environment for your daughter. The "mean girls" should be held accountable if they are slandering or libeling her in any way.

My daughter was being bullied in 4th grade and I reported it to the guidance counselor and the teachers to no avail. Her homeroom teacher actually encouraged the bully to interact with my daughter on the playground. It wasn't until I documented the events and took it to the principal that the bullying was halted. The bully was eventually removed from my daughter's classroom. We finally had a conference with her parents, the 4th grade teachers and the principal and it went no where. The girl's parents did not believe her daughter had done any of the things that were documented, and in fact in one incident in the library the girl was hitting my daughter on the shoulder, but when the Librarian was watching, it was just a "consoling pat". It took me threating a lawsuit for the school to take it seriously. My daughter's 5th grade homeroom teacher also became her champion and protector (he was bullied as a child) and made sure the bully stayed away from her.

wow! thank you for all of the great responses! I will look into them. I just want to try to help her get through this, I hate seeing her in such distress.

Chamomile, Lemon Balm, Passion Flower, Valerian Root,Rhodiola Root, St. Johns Wort, Fish Oil(DHA/EPA), Goldenseal, Slippery Elm, B-Complex, Coral Calcium+ Minerals, Sam-e'

These can add up quite quickly. Using coupons, buy 1 get 1 free and a good on-line source like Swanson Vitamins will save 50-70%. Yet you should not let money stand in the way of your daughters health.

Add to this a Superfood diet along with some exercise program or just walking in nature and she will be well on her way to health.

You will learn a great deal by helping her.

The goldenseal will kill off the bacteria which cause the ulcer. The slippery elm will coat the wound and heal it.

The rhodiola Root, St. Johns Wort, Lemon Balm, Passion Flower, Skullcap, Fish Oil, B-Complex, Calcium, and minerals will hjelp stabilize the body functions and improve the mood naturally(this will take a few weeks).

The pain of relationships is something she will have to work on. Some study from works of Carl Jung, Manly P Hall, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, or the like will help her learn to transform these dark feelings into gold!

Be patient....
Be kind....
Be supportive....

then

Give her all the "Space" she needs and "Allow" her to make her own decisions.

Get her this book!

Hey not sure if this is still is still going but before I even read what was going on I heard "get her out of there" from the angels. I went to a school similar to that and ended up with bad anxiety and and eating disorder because of it. Your daughters very sensitive I feel and the school vibe I pick up on is awfull. I know you said you dont like anxiety medication much but sometimes everyday stuff just doesn't work well enough. A doctor recommend I take anxiety medication called Cymbalta. I was a bit weary at first but I could energetically feel the difference it made...it made me more focussed, calmer, less agitated etc. He said it's worked particularly well with very few side effects for 9 out of 10 of his patients. A counsellor also told me she didn't like recommending drugs but said alot of her clients had found it to be a really beneficial one...particularly for women.