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Old 13-10-2017, 09:11 AM
Hemera Hemera is offline
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Dear Spirit Guide Sparrow

Let me start by saying I have loved and followed your writings for some time, although I haven't read through your afterlife thread in full until quite recently. I love the detail you give, the patience you have, and the kindness and compassion you have for the human race shines through so strongly.

I know you are very busy and not on the site so much now, but I felt compelled to write anyway and if you do reply I will obviously be really grateful.

Basically Sparrow, I feel I have lost my way. I have always to date had a strong interest in spiritual matters and they sustained me through very difficult times. I have focussed on self development for much of my adulthood and read spiritual books that talk about letting go, surrender, raising vibration etc and I have tried to live my life by these principles. Really, focussing on these things was the only way I coped with my life. But I had a deep certainty about it all too.

In 2010 I had what I termed a kundalini awakening and started to have dramatic psychic experiences. This continued for a few years but then the intensity eased off. I should say I have meditated on and off for years, and this seemed to bring on the experiences.

In the last say 2 years or so, I feel I have become lost. Spiritual matters don't hold the same interest for me anymore and I can't understand why. Books are no longer my lifeblood. My life itself has changed and become easier in many ways, and I am actively volunteering in the community as much as I am able. But I feel constantly disconnected from spirituality, even lethargic about it, as if I have no interest in it. This bothers me terribly. Sitting to meditate is easier some days than others but it feels an effort every time.

The worst thing about all this is that I can't hold onto any sense of faith. Most people, it seems, have certain experiences and they develop an understanding or worldview based on those. I seem to flounder no matter what I've experienced. I can''t find solid ground. One minute I think maybe I am drawn to Christian understandings, then Buddhist, then spiritualist, then simply sit in meditation and find my own way, or a combination of all of them. I do see the truth in all religions/ belief systems, but that is harder because I don't know what works for me or where my expreriences fit in. I envy people in a way who know what they are drawn to, and stick to it.

Why can't I find any certainty? Is it a lack of belief in myself? Lack of purpose? I just don't know.

I am prone to depression and sometimes feel it may be simply that, but I'm functioning fine on the surface, although I get a little lonely at times. My life is better than it has been in a long time, if not ever, but spiritually i feel bereft. I miss the intense dreams I used to have and the deep sense that everything is meaningful. I'm grateful for my life but also feel that I have lost my spiritual path. Sometimes I feel immense grief over the fact everything dies, especially my dog who means so much to me. I had an emotional breakdown of sorts a few days ago, sobbing over the thought she will die. I believe she will live on, but I don't feel it in my heart.

Sparrow I know you are busy and not obliged to reply to this at all, but I thought I would write anyway and if you have any thoughts I would be sincerely grateful.

Lots of love to you

Hemera xx
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Old 13-10-2017, 12:33 PM
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Old 14-10-2017, 12:12 PM
Pagandell Pagandell is offline
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Color BREAK ON THROUGH TO THE OTHER SIDE.

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Sparrow, hello there! I have been following Tiss and was very interested in your reply, as her question was very general and could be taken many ways.

I resonate with everything you say about self-love, which exploits or misdirects no one...and it's generally long overdue to be freed from any old-fashioned religious paradigms that teach us the body is banal or somehow in any way less than the non-material or ethereal. As I see it, we are all sacred, all of us and all existence, and the temporal physical bits of your being every bit as much so as the eternal bits.

It's exactly this false duality that allows so many to degrade and exploit others, since after all who cares about the body (and who are you more broadly), except as it's something for me or whomever to use?, is the modern way of thinking. Our Western culture has (despite advances in many areas) taken the narcissism, exploitation, and utilitarian (any means to your ends) paradigm to the centre and mainstreamed these things, and humanity is particularly susceptible to cultural overlays...particularly the degraded and debased ones that indulge our lower will to power-over, oppression, and exploitation of others and of Gaia.

I read Tiss's statement and heard the disappointment regarding the lack of agape love, and how for a woman (most women), being touched without an authentic love for her first and foremost simply as a person and as a beloved friend, produces a severe and cumulative trauma over both the short- and especially the long-term. Bluntly put, penetration without a mutual authentic love feels like coercion and rape to the body and to the heart, even though the mind and ego may deny or misdirect.

Self-love is certainly one way to avoid this trauma, and to recover some of the authentic love in being which we all are. But in relationship to one another, there is a deeper transformation, a deeper challenge to which humanity must rise. Never before in the history of Gaia have adult, unrelated men and women routinely and consistently experienced non-sexual, engaged, long-term authentic (agape, unconditional) love with one another. Male-female adult beloved "anam cara" agape friendships have always been almost nonexistent and nor have male-female partnerships ever been founded on an agape love.

Instead, what has sustained humanity in both the physical and spiritual sense has instead been the agape love we have received (at least from some of them some of the time) from parents, from children, and from beloved friends, usually same-sex because of the arranged and/or coercive sexual and non-authentically loving overtones of most male-female partnerships on earth since time immemorial.

Clearly, agape love toward others manifest in our being and doing, regularly and day-to-day, on the ground, is a challenge for humanity at large. But it is particularly in the realm of male-female adult non-familial relationships where agape love (unconditional, actively seeking and supporting the highest good of others equally to the self) has been most persistently and pervasively absent. Such that we continue as a species to call for agape love between one another, between groups, etc., whilst continuing to do and be and speak of special exceptions for men and women. Such that male-female anam cara (agape) friendships [non-sexual and not dependent upon expectations or demands for sex] are nearly non-existent into adulthood, and such that male-female partnerships globally, whilst of course common, continue to specifically ignore the call to authentically love one another first and foremost as people and as friends.

The fact that self-love amongst men is now globally and routinely tied to violent and degrading porn addictions has not helped male-female relationships. Nor is the fact that rape and exploitation continue to increase in nearly every society regardless of wealth, education, culture, etc. Nor does the western addiction to casual sex that many adult men in particularly have, such that they cannot and will not get to know a woman for who she is as a person without callously expecting and demanding that they road-test her and "see how it plays out". Sadly women who are very young or who have not yet had children are still particularly vulnerable to the message that they must do whatever is needed to please a man and fulfill their one strong biological urge (in most women), which is to have children.

Humanity need to address this core gap in authentic love in all our core relationships with one another...and in particular, in those core relationships (male-female, most notably) where we have actively sought not to do so. In particular, where we have actively sought and continue to seek "special exceptions" to the authentic love that our common humanity deserves and requires. It is one of the supreme challenges we face, every bit equal to 2) the challenge we face in dealing with Gaia without callously using, degrading, raping, and exploiting her...and also equal to 3) the challenge we face in loving and caring for our brothers and sisters (just sticking with Gaia) both within and across societies, everywhere around the globe -- specifically, rising above war, oppression, and extremes of class and discrimination of all kinds. All of it requiring the application of authentic love...which has been spotty at best and nearly wholly absent in some areas.

As a woman, I have met very few other adult women who do not deeply feel the imbalance, to the core of our being. And for the vast majority, we do not seek to separate a mutually authentic love from sex. Discussions of sex outside the context of authentic love, a love which stands alone and is in no way predicated on nor requiring of sex, is the only way most women feel whole when engaging in sex with a partner, where the energy exchanged is authentically loving and balanced. And I find that, with nearly every woman I meet, this knowing and understanding of what nurtures and resonates with us only grows stronger and clearer, as we progress on our path. As we become ever more centred and aware, sex without the presence of authentic love only feels more clearly coercive and misaligned to most women, not less so.

I also strongly feel that the way (core orientation) of most Gaian women is also good and right. I feel strongly in the universality of this position across many other human and other species. But if that is not the case, our way is still good and integral and in no way do I feel that the path we walk -- in support of a greater authentic love across all humanity with NO exceptions -- needs to be reoriented or that we need more sex without authentic love when that causes us trauma. I feel strongly that a more consistently universal agape love is the way forward for Gaian humanity, and that it is the challenge that, if met, will allow us as a species to address our other relationships which for many "seem" less immediate...those of handling Gaia and our fellow humans with authentic love, as well.

And...I've also felt this way as a man in other lives...it is absolutely possible for men to experience life with this knowing and realisation, despite the current levels of utilitarianism and narcissism currently promoted in many societies, certainly in the West. Authentic love for one's partner doesn't fix everything in your life...but it certainly is foundational for humanity, and the presence of that foundation will go a long way in beginning to heal humanity's historically and actively underdeveloped heart centre. All humanity need love and friendship. We all need beloved friendships of both sexes, whether as partners or not. And (speaking for nearly all the women I've ever known and nearly all they've ever known, and so on)...we as women, (and men too in my [other-life] experience), definitely need authentically loving friendships within which to occasionally consider committing (however) in a balanced and sustainable partnership before penetration and sex more broadly.

Peace & blessings
and much love & light!
7L

Wow many words 7L ..................
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Old 14-10-2017, 01:43 PM
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Wow! I just happened upon this thread for the first time. Looks like I've got some wonderful reading to do! Here goes..............
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Old 14-10-2017, 03:48 PM
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Wow! I just happened upon this thread for the first time. Looks like I've got some wonderful reading to do! Here goes..............

For the older material it would be simpler and easier to read the collated, condensed material at http://www.spiritguidesparrow.com/afterlife.html
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Old 14-10-2017, 03:49 PM
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Wow! I just happened upon this thread for the first time. Looks like I've got some wonderful reading to do! Here goes..............

But where have you been since registration in 2013?
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Old 14-10-2017, 03:56 PM
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Thank you leadville I'll boogie over there and continue with my read.

Lol, I either skipped over without comprehending what it was about (one of my favorite subjects) or just never had it happen at the top of the list while I was browsing. Cheers!
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Old 14-10-2017, 04:02 PM
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Thank you leadville I'll boogie over there and continue with my read.

Lol, I either skipped over without comprehending what it was about (one of my favorite subjects) or just never had it happen at the top of the list while I was browsing. Cheers!

Better late than never - enjoy your reading - the most recent material may need to be viewed 'live' in this thread.
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Old 14-10-2017, 04:04 PM
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Got it! Thanks again.
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Old 14-10-2017, 04:21 PM
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Wow many words 7L ..................

Hey there Pagandell!
I think it's from my last lifetime, LOL...I was saving them up for the the written word here on SF. It's where I do most of my talking
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