I URGENTLY need help in disconnecting from my twin flame

[7luminaries]

Originally Posted by white-dove

This means so much, thank you! I am having a little cry and feel like I'm not alone... Yes. I know in his case it is that he has so much self-hate, what he is projecting onto me is not hate of me but rather hate of himself. He is so totally isolated, so traumatized by his experiences of pain, hurt, exclusion by people. No wonder it is intense - I'm getting it all!

I know how he feels about me, under the anger and frustration.. last night I got a tonne of the 'pure love' just pouring off him... which I accept and give back!

I have realised one of the main ways I can deal with this is by whatever comes at me I just psyche back some pure love. It costs me nothing, on the contrary. It's like smiling.

The other way is that I must have connection here on the ground. I need my family, my sister, my close friends. I need to be in nature, with my dog. Just being HERE and CONNECTED. That also protects me.

Your words have meant so much, thank you. The understanding, and relating of your similar experiences, this has helped... and your warnings to be careful. You're right, I'm very sensitive and painfully empathetic and need to learn to protect myself. And not trust tooooo much, or at least take my time to give real trust to people!! Specially those I never met.

Your own suggestions sound wonderful...and you're very welcome!
Be sure to set your own boundaries in spirit regarding the sort of energy and messages you won't accept...that's very important re: the messages as well and I wish I'd done that years ago.

For example, I'll no longer tolerate any messages or undercurrent (unspoken message) of resentment, of casting me as burdensome or unworthy somehow...none of that.
And I basically ignored this for years because I didn't know how to draw my boundaries in this way. Hope this helps.

Much love & light to you!

Peace & blessings
7L