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Originally Posted by eliana israel
How do you move on from a person you basically got emotionally involved with for the sake of moving forward and for others that pursue you?
When I say emotionally involved, I don't mean a relationship. It was someone I guess I felt a range of emotions for and there seems to be some residual energy even after I said I basically want nothing to do with you.
Any advice on how to cut the residual cord?
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Create a chasm between you & them.
It takes work as it means you adapting your life somewhat but it makes sense to not stick to the same routine & hang around in the same places that originally allowed you to cross paths in the 1st place.
It could be interpreted as avoiding "them" but it's more than that.
The phrase "old habits die hard" is well known because its very true.
If you work along side them on the other hand then the chasm needs to be a mental one. You need to almost act as though you've had a mind wipe.
There is no need to be nasty or anything like that - aloof but not cold is best but you can't repeat the steps that brought you together in the 1st place otherwise it's too easy for either to just reconnect.
Friends or partners - it makes no difference - only that there is a reason that you have decided to break away from them, a final straw ... trust it.
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