Star as obstacle

[kindheart]

The Star in the obstacle position about the potential for the rinkindeling of a romantic relationship between ex and I down the road (I know, typical wish, please don't judge!).

Would that mean there isn't hope? Or that there needs healing first? Or Im struggling to move on (heal)? Something else?

For context:
situation = Strength,
obstacle = star
Advice = queen of swords (i need to grieve, maybe, and move on?)
Fool = outcome (i often get page of cups ir star for future between us too. Or ace of cups.). Does that mean rekindeling, or going separate ways toward new loves?

[Rachella]

In this case, I would read the star as someone who has their head stuck in the clouds, or "in the stars". A person who is dreaming too much or not being very realistic about a situation. I don't mean necessarily you (God, do I empathise with you, I have done countless of these readings ) it could be him who has developed an idea of something that is far from reality.
Queen of swords (my favourite!) speaks in fact of reaching mental clarity. In this context, I would read the Fool as an unexpected development of the situation that will require a leap of faith of some sort, stepping out of the comfort zone.
Best wishes to you

[kindheart]

Originally Posted by Rachella

In this case, I would read the star as someone who has their head stuck in the clouds, or "in the stars". A person who is dreaming too much or not being very realistic about a situation. I don't mean necessarily you (God, do I empathise with you, I have done countless of these readings ) it could be him who has developed an idea of something that is far from reality.
Queen of swords (my favourite!) speaks in fact of reaching mental clarity. In this context, I would read the Fool as an unexpected development of the situation that will require a leap of faith of some sort, stepping out of the comfort zone.
Best wishes to you

Thank you for your quick reply and kind words.
What about Star for outcome (another common one... or page of cups, or ace of cups), in terms of potential for romantic relationship between us/together down the road? I have a really hard time figuring if it means a new relationships altogether (with new people), or a renewal of love (since Im asking about the potential for us, together)?

A renewal just seems so out of reach at this point :( We had recently talked about getting back together (but the temporary distance made it hard), but he then started talking with an old friend and now they are dating each other). I miss his son too, whom I loved like my own (I have no kids of my own and don't think I will either).

[Clover]

I do get the sense of staying hopeful for the future, but moving forward. You both are on a new path now, and so is he. The page of cups can show this too, its a new emotion ( neither good or bad), perhaps a change of feelings. Queen of swords thinks with her head, not with her heart. She does whats right, so most importantly here, trust you did the right thing by parting ways, with the fool, a new path awaits you..

[kindheart]

Originally Posted by Clover

I do get the sense of staying hopeful for the future, but moving forward. You both are on a new path now, and so is he. The page of cups can show this too, its a new emotion ( neither good or bad), perhaps a change of feelings. Queen of swords thinks with her head, not with her heart. She does whats right, so most importantly here, trust you did the right thing by parting ways, with the fool, a new path awaits you..

Thank you for the reply. This parting was not at all my choice though and Im deeply hurt by it. I just feel betrayed, he was telling me we'd be a family again once he was done working away... then he fell for someone else and Im not having it.

[tealily]

My honest, loving contribution here is that I would expect an accurate reading in your situation to be nigh-impossible given the emotional nature of the topic :( Sometimes it is best to be read by someone else rather than try it yourself. Said without judgement - I too have read on ex partners before Emotional minefield, wot.

I would be happy to exchange readings with you if you'd like to pm me your question.

[FairyCrystal]

Originally Posted by kindheart

The Star in the obstacle position about the potential for the rinkindeling of a romantic relationship between ex and I down the road (I know, typical wish, please don't judge!).

Would that mean there isn't hope? Or that there needs healing first? Or Im struggling to move on (heal)? Something else?

For context:
situation = Strength,
obstacle = star
Advice = queen of swords (i need to grieve, maybe, and move on?)
Fool = outcome (i often get page of cups ir star for future between us too. Or ace of cups.). Does that mean rekindeling, or going separate ways toward new loves?

A painful situation if that happens to you. Basically when a man says that to you, it means they love you but aren't in love with you. Or, in other words, they care about you, but not enough to make you their life partner.
That's why he fell for someone else, he did feel 'it' for her. Same thing happened to me, happens to a lot of women btw. It is possible for a man to stay with a woman for years without ever truly committing to her. Living together, calling her his girlfriend and so on. Then, out of the blue, he meets someone he does fall in love with and wants to commit to and he's gone. Marries her within a few months, baby on the way etc. Suddenly doing all the things he didn't want with partner nr 1.
Why they do this? They do care, you are company, offer friendship, sex, and so on.
Funny thing is, if a woman does the same thing she's labeled a golddigger.

Anywho, just telling you to explain. Knowing can help accepting and healing in the end.

As for the cards, similar thing. Star is holding on to hope, which is false hope. Holding on to something that isn't there anymore. It keeps you in a sort of dream state, a protective field so you don't feel the pain so much. Yet, ironically it also keeps you in the pain longer because in this imaginative environment you cannot heal. Kind of living a fairy tale in your head that is more comfortable than the truth.
Even if there was to be a reunion, you must heal. You cannot come back together if you are still broken so to speak. You are not broken, but you feel that way. In that state you won't be a match for him, not for anyone. You have to heal. That's why this is an obstacle.

That's why you have advice Queen of Swords: Become empowered, not controlled by your emotions anymore, seeing clearly what's going on, aka the naked truth & reality, and being able to handle that.
Then you will also get respect. You'll have healthy boundaries, feel strong & confident.
That's what you have to begin working on.

Fool; daring to be you again, feeling good about being you and venturing out in life again. Not moving towards 'back together', you'll be moving away from this situation, accepting it's gone.

Sorry to tell you this, but I think deep down you already know, you just don't want to accept or see it as it's so painful.
But I do want to be honest and tell you what I see and feel from the cards and not tell you what you want to hear in order to feel better.

Best of luck. Time does heal all wounds, allow yourself this time.

[kindheart]

Thank you for your replies... This hurts to hear but you're most likely right... thanks for the advice

[FairyCrystal]

Originally Posted by kindheart

Thank you for your replies... This hurts to hear but you're most likely right... thanks for the advice

Try to find something that is a spark of positivity, no matter how small. Something to hold on to, to focus on, and has nothing to do with him.
Can be a dog, a cat, a dear friend. For me it was focusing on my dreams & future. I started a 4 week training barely 1 week after he broke up with me. And boy did that help me! Having assignments to watch and do (it was an online training) each day, sharing in the FB group, getting feedback, and with all that work on my own future & dreams.
It's what got me through those first horrible few weeks.
Just force yourself to focus on something else. You will still have plenty of time to mourn in between but it will keep you from 'drowning' in it.
Make sure you have people who can support you when you need to cry, people who love you and will hold you, hug you.

Wishing you lots of love

[kindheart]

Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

Try to find something that is a spark of positivity, no matter how small. Something to hold on to, to focus on, and has nothing to do with him.
Can be a dog, a cat, a dear friend. For me it was focusing on my dreams & future. I started a 4 week training barely 1 week after he broke up with me. And boy did that help me! Having assignments to watch and do (it was an online training) each day, sharing in the FB group, getting feedback, and with all that work on my own future & dreams.
It's what got me through those first horrible few weeks.
Just force yourself to focus on something else. You will still have plenty of time to mourn in between but it will keep you from 'drowning' in it.
Make sure you have people who can support you when you need to cry, people who love you and will hold you, hug you.

Wishing you lots of love

Thank you so much for the kind words and advice... keeping busy is definitely important. Im also grateful to you guys. I have good friends I can talk to, but I appreciate the support I get here. Thank you, to you and you other members who have reached out