At what point do you let go?

[Ziusudra]

Originally Posted by Pequena Estrela

Ziusudra - sounds like your ex husband was not the right one for you. When you find true love, that love never dies. There is never indifference, never the wish to be apart from that person. True love lasts a lifetime - and beyond.

Actually, my ex husband was the right person for me at the time when we met and during the first part of our marriage. We both had gained and learned from our marriage.

About true love..... hmm.
Love is not so concrete. It flows, with different shapes, colors, and depths.
I agreed that love can last a lifetime and beyond.
However, for a physical and romantic relationship to last a lifetime, it takes more than just enduring love.

[Pequena Estrela]

Originally Posted by Ziusudra

Actually, my ex husband was the right person for me at the time when we met and during the first part of our marriage. We both had gained and learned from our marriage.

About true love..... hmm.
Love is not so concrete. It flows, with different shapes, colors, and depths.
I agreed that love can last a lifetime and beyond.
However, for a physical and romantic relationship to last a lifetime, it takes more than just enduring love.

Ziusudra - I don't think it's so much that your ex husband was the right person for you at the time but that he wasn't later. The right person is always the right person, that doesn't change. I agree he might have come into your life for a reason, and it sounds like you both learned from that experience - such things do happen. Some people get sent our way for a reason, to teach us something - or maybe we have to teach them something.

But the real right man for you - that wasn't your ex husband.

True that one has to work on a relationship, one has to put the effort into it or it won't last. One has to give and take, make compromises, communicate. One has to sacrifice, one has to put the other person before oneself. Without all that, it's not going to work. But at the essence of it all there must be real love or even all these efforts will come to nothing.

[LibbyScorp]

It's been a joy and an interesting read with all of your responses over the weeks. I've typed a bunch and just deleted it all in the edit. It felt pointless to post but the worth of those words came in my own epiphany as I reviewed them. So my time typing it out didn't go to waste :)

Hope you are all well and healthy during these crazy times.

Originally Posted by LibbyScorp

It's been a joy and an interesting read with all of your responses over the weeks. I've typed a bunch and just deleted it all in the edit. It felt pointless to post but the worth of those words came in my own epiphany as I reviewed them. So my time typing it out didn't go to waste :)

Hope you are all well and healthy during these crazy times.

Hi.. Lovely message. A point to everything in the end! Hope that you too are staying safe and well.... Crazy times indeed.

[AaronStar]

I feel like I don't get attached to people romantically anymore.
I did hurt in the past. Now the sense of disenchantment just makes the magic go away.
Maybe because now I seek a true bond. When I see it's just not happening, I don't feel anything at all.
Maybe If someday I get mislead more seriously, I would hurt for a longer time. I don't know myself anymore.

[linen53]

Yes, I held on for 7 years and I got trampled over and over until one day I said "Enough. Go." It was with my daughter. The son went along with her.

I think it is different for everyone. I held on because I just couldn't fathom my daughter would do such hurtful things. I thought it was my imagination. But after 7 years? Come on. But it took that long, me holding on, her doing one hurtful thing after another. For me to let go and put me first.

[Dropship]

Originally Posted by LibbyScorp

I'm interested to hear your experiences of when you knew it was time to let go of someone you loved deeply. At what point did you develop the strength to leave? What was the breaking point?..

For me it's always been easy to split with a woman as soon as I find out we're not on the same wavelength, and she usually agrees too, so we simply go our separate ways, piece o' cake..:)

[Rachella]

I let go of the expectations on someone but not on the actual feelings (it wouldn't be possible) and I finally found peace. I know that it sounds a very abstract thing to say, but it took me several years and lots of hurt. You just live your life carrying the hurt until you realise that love doesn't necessarily mean physical presence. It made me stronger, it made me love myself more.