How can be at peace with myself?

***************double post, sorry.

Find your selfhood. It's what you should be and learn your place in the cosmos.

[Aeracura222]

Just be at peace with yourself. I know it sounds crazy, but you have a choice despite what your mind may tell you <3 Love yourself, honour yourself, take care of yourself <3

[knightofalbion]

"Until he extends the circle of his compassion to all living things, man will not himself find peace" ...

[Classic]

Originally Posted by Greenslade

You're bombarded by turbulent emotions when you're alone, I wonder where they come from? Well yes, you would be because you're at odds with yourself and the Universe. Considering Life, the Universe, Everything IS Spiritual/of Spirit it's kind of difficult not to be on a Spiritual Path so nothing is for nothing, if it is then it's your perception. If you want success/failure then success is a strange thing as well because sometimes our greatest successes are our greatest failures and vice versa. Dealing with failure is a success on its own but then success and failure are imposters so make your choices from there. When you find the place where you're okay as you are peace will be on the same bench.

Apart from you, who is judging you? Who says you aren't already whole?

First of all thank you all for your posts. I actually didn't expect this many posts.

The "I" that is judging me is my subconscious, but I guess didn't learn that on it's on without my conscious effort. I haven't really reached any pillars as far as Spirituality is concerned. It's pretty embarrassing considering I'm not even near what most here would consider a feeble moment on their spiritual path. But it's not really my spirituality that has me down but just life in general and it's been that way for long time now. Which why I've gotten into spirituality in the first place, I heard it can help me improve myself and attain peace with myself which I desperately need at this time of my life.

[LadyMay]

I would suggest to accept your emotions. Pushing them away doesn't cause peace, it prevents it. If they arise at inconvenient times tell them gently that you can't give them attention right at that moment but that as soon as you can you will. It's very important to give our emotions the attention they need, because otherwise they cannot pass and if they cannot pass you will not find peace.

You can be by yourself all the time, but it doesn't necessarily mean you are with yourself, with all of yourself.

Your emotions are a part of you too. Don't ignore them. They want to be friends. :)

I have found that when turbulent emotions come up when we're by ourselves; it is a sign of anxiety based on not being comfortable with who you are. This can be brought on by the opinions of the world around you. None of us have to look very far to find someone who will put down the way we look, what we believe or even how we dress. It is a trendy world that has something negative to say about everything. All of this can certainly make one feel less confident in themselves.

The way to get out of this trap is to be comfortable in your own shoes. To heck with what everyone else says or thinks; the person criticizing you has faults of their own and they just need to look in the mirror. Reclaim your power and be happy with your self. None of us are perfect, but that's what the journey of life is all about; to reach a higher state and rise above the illusion.

[A human Being]

Originally Posted by ScarlettHayden

I would suggest to accept your emotions. Pushing them away doesn't cause peace, it prevents it. If they arise at inconvenient times tell them gently that you can't give them attention right at that moment but that as soon as you can you will. It's very important to give our emotions the attention they need, because otherwise they cannot pass and if they cannot pass you will not find peace.

You can be by yourself all the time, but it doesn't necessarily mean you are with yourself, with all of yourself.

Your emotions are a part of you too. Don't ignore them. They want to be friends. :)

Beautifully put

I'll second the suggestion to accept your emotions. I've really seen the value of practicing this in the last couple of years, because I'd spent most of my 30 years to that point pushing them away. But once I really became conscious of my struggle with my emotions, I could see just how damaging it was, both psychically and physically; I just hit a brick wall, really felt drained and had no fight left in me, and I had no choice but to surrender to what I was feeling.* Only then did I finally find peace, and I knew (felt) that it had always been there.

*It's just occurred to me that I've been prone to looking back nostalgically to my first experience of awakening, when maybe what I should be doing is remembering the turmoil that caused it.

Originally Posted by Classic

First of all thank you all for your posts. I actually didn't expect this many posts.

The "I" that is judging me is my subconscious, but I guess didn't learn that on it's on without my conscious effort. I haven't really reached any pillars as far as Spirituality is concerned. It's pretty embarrassing considering I'm not even near what most here would consider a feeble moment on their spiritual path. But it's not really my spirituality that has me down but just life in general and it's been that way for long time now. Which why I've gotten into spirituality in the first place, I heard it can help me improve myself and attain peace with myself which I desperately need at this time of my life.

Spiritual pillars and feeble moments, not sure what you mean by this and meaning no disrespect I don't think you do neither. At 22 I wasn't any kind of Spiritual so at the same age you're further on 'Spiritually' than I was at your age, but then we've been Spiritual since the day we first drew breath - and before. For many people the 'Spiritual Path' is more about trying to become something they think they ought to be and less about themselves as they are. Forget the pillars because there is only one - yourself - and you don't have to be anything other than who and what you are. Spiritually, if you were meant to be someone else doing something else you would be. You're okay the way you are and you're not being judged by any external force and certainly not by anyone in here.

When you start seeing your Life for what it is and not what you think it should be it takes on a whole new meaning, what we resist persists so if you are resisting your Life as it is then it will keep persisting and will never change. It's about understanding your Life right here right now in whatever shape or form that takes - awareness is the key. Drop what doesn't serve you and so far it looks as though 'pillars' aren't helping you any so say goodbye to them and what you think 'aught to be'.

Originally Posted by Mind's Eye

The way to get out of this trap is to be comfortable in your own shoes.

That's the one.

A mind is easy conviction, that is verdict on any course of action, is brought in finally not by science, not by reason, not by technology, not even by public opinions, but by results. A mind prepared not for disbelief but for constant, graceful and skepticism.