TF belittles only me without any reason, why?

Originally Posted by tealtwist

This reminds me of that article the put a care label on the tf label. Meaning there are types of tf relationships......But then again I have seen this pop up in some readings I have given in the past..

Ask him to stop and that it bothers you and how much it can hurt you. I think he should pick up on it but if he asks you what wrong and you say nothing then...........

Thank you the next time I will say it to him

[Aurora Borealis]

Speaking of labels; whether it's called belittling, teasing or reciting poetry - when what someone is doing is hurtful and disrespectful to you, it is NOT love, and it is NOT something you stick around for. I agree with those who said they don't believe this is your TF - not that any label on the connection between you would've made a difference in this case.

You deserve better. :)

I have to respectfully disagree with the comment above. I have said things to my own TF out of ego/fear...because he & I are both bringing up things from.our past that need healing. We had two years of absolute Heaven, then the third year when we did more push-pull out of fear of the intensity.

I like how this article describes why this happens:

http://theeternalbliss.wordpress.com...nflames-argue/

Originally Posted by Aurora Borealis

Speaking of labels; whether it's called belittling, teasing or reciting poetry - when what someone is doing is hurtful and disrespectful to you, it is NOT love, and it is NOT something you stick around for. I agree with those who said they don't believe this is your TF - not that any label on the connection between you would've made a difference in this case.

You deserve better. :)

hhmm indeed if it goes to far then we all have to "stop" because of the timing,

but he does it unconsciously it just happens (impulsive reaction) why do they say that soulmate/tf relationships are one of the hardest. ego and insecurity makes people react differently. but he's the only one in this life with whom I share a deep bond, with the other men with whom I can only laugh etccc, the temporarily ones "out of sight out of mind", are all illusion

Originally Posted by Shawnee

I have to respectfully disagree with the comment above. I have said things to my own TF out of ego/fear...because he & I are both bringing up things from.our past that need healing. We had two years of absolute Heaven, then the third year when we did more push-pull out of fear of the intensity.

I like how this article describes why this happens:

http://theeternalbliss.wordpress.com...nflames-argue/

I agree, they love us like no other.. Sometimes it's just too difficult

you remind me of a very dear friend, i used to tease him a little but at same time i felt kinda bad so i stopped and made him feel nice
he wouldnt say hes hurt, he would agree with me

[Aurora Borealis]

Originally Posted by Shawnee

I have to respectfully disagree with the comment above. I have said things to my own TF out of ego/fear...because he & I are both bringing up things from.our past that need healing. We had two years of absolute Heaven, then the third year when we did more push-pull out of fear of the intensity.

I like how this article describes why this happens:

http://theeternalbliss.wordpress.com...nflames-argue/

Well, arguing is one thing. Bullying, another. Besides, do we know what "phase" their relationship is in? Maybe she's written her full story and I just haven't read it? I may have misunderstood her initial post in this thread, I don't know.

A soul connection does not mean that he/she is compatible with you in the physical and emotional levels.

I am not saying that your connection with him is even positive or deep connection. You just have a connection with him and that is it.

When you recognize that maintaining a physical and emotional connection with him is harmful and hurtful to you, you need to dettach yourself from him.
This is a lesson and passage of self love. It is often a painful journey to that peak.
This may be the only purpose of your connection with him, nothing more.

You need to learn that you have everything that you need for love within you. You do not need him.
Choose yourself first.
When you start loving and respecting yourself through dettachments, you would attract your next lesson.

[Teal]

Well said Nada. Good advice.....