I will stop complaining for the next 2 months

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by The Necromancer

Are we not allowed to express any negative emotion because it is seen as ....

It does not matter if it is ''seen as'' anything, Necro...forget other people.
You want to whine, aka, focus on, repeat to others, mull over,
lament about things, go ahead...
Of course, you must know by now after being on this Forum...
that you will only create more of the same...that is
just how this Universe was made...reaping and sowing, period.
Sow despair...more 'disparaging events' will circle back around to you...
you have made a nice comfy home for them, see?

They hate being around me...not only have I shewed them away,
their is now a wall of flowers that can't penetrate....as thick as steel.

I know you have faith in the ''Above"...so put your money where your mouth is..simply Trust the
All That Is, by whatever Name you like.
It works for me!


Hope that helps some.

[jojobean]

Originally Posted by Lorelyen

To be honest there is no excuse for not starting the day positively.
Do you greet the morning? An adoration to the day? Do you give thanks to all the things in the world that give you your breakfast?
Did you remind yourself you're going to find something good about the day?

It hardly needs any self-discipline - just 5 minutes' worth of positive projection. If you can't even manage that then, yes, you're in a bad way.

....

yes, I had been projecting positivity for a long time. I deal with depression sometimes, for which I am treatment, and sometimes, things get to be too much to deal with all at once.

I have gotten back to the positivity to start my day. As it turns out, a lot of people like to read my FB posts in the mornings. It puts them in a positive way too. So not making excuses, just dealing with emotions. I am human after all.

[Shivani Devi]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

It does not matter if it is ''seen as'' anything, Necro...forget other people.
You want to whine, aka, focus on, repeat to others, mull over,
lament about things, go ahead...
Of course, you must know by now after being on this Forum...
that you will only create more of the same...that is
just how this Universe was made...reaping and sowing, period.
Sow despair...more 'disparaging events' will circle back around to you...
you have made a nice comfy home for them, see?

They hate being around me...not only have I shewed them away,
their is now a wall of flowers that can't penetrate....as thick as steel.

I know you have faith in the ''Above"...so put your money where your mouth is..simply Trust the
All That Is, by whatever Name you like.
It works for me!


Hope that helps some.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change - which is like, everything!

....and give me some patience while you're at it.

[Leyla]

hi i am relatively new here, but i find myself and others in my dept complaining about our work and especially our manager. she is not one of the nicest people and every time i get up for work, i feel that anxiety about going to work,dont get me wrong i am grateful to have a stable job for the last 15 years. but you can feel the negative energy in the air.

i have said to a few people in the past maybe we should stop complaning and if we aint happy look elsewhere, its okay for awhile till something triggers us to start complaining to each other again

[cdoliveira]

Hi guys, so just some feedback for you

I can already see improvements!! I used to have some issues with my boyfriend and used to get very very down and upset about them... I focused on changing that, it just wasn't healthy and wasn't doing me any good..
Anyway, turns out last night my boyfriend came to me and actually apologized for things I've been complaining for mooonths and always turned into fights. He said he knew he wasn't perfect but he would try to improve and be a better person, for us. He always had this "protective" reaction in all fights, where he would blame on me for all the issues and not listen to myself at all, so that was actually surprising.
I think he realized something was different because of my behavior.
I was happier and calm, lighter, I would say, although a bit quieter than normal. So he probably realized I was changing my behavior towards him and felt the obligation to do the same. We had an amazing talk and sorted everything out hehe

In my professional life, only improvements too. A few recruiters have been contacting me for new and interesting opportunities, although I don't really want to leave my company now (I really like working here).

So in an overview, I can feel myself less anxious and less stressed out. When something starts to bother me, I tried to tune myself into something else and soon enough I would forget about that issue. I do express my opinions when I am not comfortable tho, I am just not arguing about it or making a big deal out of it.

I think it is working!!! Quite happy with the results so far
You guys should try it and post your results too !!

[Khalli]

Originally Posted by cdoliveira

Hi guys, so just some feedback for you

I can already see improvements!! I used to have some issues with my boyfriend and used to get very very down and upset about them... I focused on changing that, it just wasn't healthy and wasn't doing me any good..
Anyway, turns out last night my boyfriend came to me and actually apologized for things I've been complaining for mooonths and always turned into fights. He said he knew he wasn't perfect but he would try to improve and be a better person, for us. He always had this "protective" reaction in all fights, where he would blame on me for all the issues and not listen to myself at all, so that was actually surprising.
I think he realized something was different because of my behavior.
I was happier and calm, lighter, I would say, although a bit quieter than normal. So he probably realized I was changing my behavior towards him and felt the obligation to do the same. We had an amazing talk and sorted everything out hehe

In my professional life, only improvements too. A few recruiters have been contacting me for new and interesting opportunities, although I don't really want to leave my company now (I really like working here).

So in an overview, I can feel myself less anxious and less stressed out. When something starts to bother me, I tried to tune myself into something else and soon enough I would forget about that issue. I do express my opinions when I am not comfortable tho, I am just not arguing about it or making a big deal out of it.

I think it is working!!! Quite happy with the results so far
You guys should try it and post your results too !!

Seems like another has discovered that focusing on positive thoughts and going with the flow("nalu it") is a very wonderful way to live.

I am happy for you.

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by cdoliveira

Hi guys, so just some feedback for you
I think it is working!

I know~ Right?

[jojobean]

yes me too. normally at this time of year I would be stressing and frazzled, but I am not stressing out. I made a conscious decision to let the cards fall where they may, everything usually works out in the end anyway.
it won't be the end of the world if my older nieces & nephews don't have their Christmas gifts on Christmas day...etc. If I can get it done, it will be done, if not, the next day works just as well.

[cdoliveira]

Yesss, so happy for us all!!

I had a dream the other night about a friend of mine. When I woke up, he had texted me! Curiously enough, my mom who lives in another country texted me couple of hours after, asking about this guy!!! She had never asked me about him in like, 6 years! What are the odds?? Recently I've been researching about Spiritual stuff but in a different way, more "deep", I would say, and somehow I am getting answers for question I had for aaaaaages and they are all falling into place now!! No matter where I look for those answers (Buddhism, Hinduism, Bashar teachings, etc etc) I will ALWAYS end up with the same answer!!!! So cool!!! Definitely a "sign" I am walking towards the right direction!!

[Faith33]

That's awesome for you, cdoliveira.
I haven't read through the whole thread, but my attention was drawn to the part about your relationship and I remembered a chapter in the the book "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale.
There is a story about a couple who had been married for many years, but somehow lost eachother along the journey... the advice to the wife was to sit quietly and think about how she wanted her relationship to be... to feel as though her husband was sitting beside her exchanging words of love, etc.
Well, she practiced this technique for about two months, without saying a word to her husband about it, patiently waiting for his return into her arms... it worked.
Slowly, the husband's behaviour towards her began to change for the better and before they knew it, they were once again in eachother's arms, as if nothing had ever come between them in the first place... mind you, the husband was contemplating leaving her when she began practicing positive thinking.

Sometimes though, getting to the core of the problem and expressing concerns and perhaps fears, isn't a bad thing either. What kind of a relationship would it be if thoughts aren't expressed and potential fears or concerns be laid to rest.

I'm happy for you. Keep up the good work!