taking steps to start loving yourself

Originally Posted by girlsearching

it may seem like a simple task but its not. i'ts easy to love someone else. but if you do not have the confedence in yourself and you do not think you are worthy of being loved .or obtaing the affection from the person then its a struggle. i have to work on my self esteem issues i have to start taking steps with my ownself and start seeing the beautiful person that others say they see in me too. i know it wont be easy, but always talk about wanting to be in a relationship, but i know that love starts with loving yourself before you can let anyone enter your life.

Amen, lady!

It's just that when you say it's easy to love someone else, and though it was unspoken in that sentence, I know you were also alluding towards "even if you don't love yourself." Am I right?
Lets just say we are all watering cans and you come across a plant that needs to be watered. How can you water it when your watering can is empty?

[Gem]

Nice thread. I like it a lot.

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by Konjim

yes i am agree that it is hard to believe on Love . but i would like to advice you do not If any body do true love then you need not to advice ,....

i know it may not be true love because, when i think of true love it means a perfect kind of love and no one is perfect. i someday hope to have what my grandparents have a type of love that is just genine.

[Belle]

girlsearching, don't hope for what your grandparents had - they had their relationship which I'm sure wasn't straightforwards - but look for your own relationship that works for you. But you are right to nurture the relationship wiht your own self first.

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by Gem

Nice thread. I like it a lot.

thank you Gem if you have any threads on here. i will be sure to read them

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by Belle

girlsearching, don't hope for what your grandparents had - they had their relationship which I'm sure wasn't straightforwards - but look for your own relationship that works for you. But you are right to nurture the relationship wiht your own self first.

thanks Belle but i don't want the exact type of relationship that my grandparents have. but i do hope it will last as long theirs oneday. i'm not sure but dosent the us have a high divorce rate ?

[Belle]

I'm not sure on divorce rates but there's no reason why you need to be a part of any statistic. It's a shame I think that so many stats are done on such a subject when really it's all about personal relationships, lives and so on.

But yes there is part of me that desires what my grandparents had. My grandfather wrote a letter to my mother saying that he had chosen a wonderful helpmate - I think that was such a delicious turn of phrase. I'm sure it wasn't easy.

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by LadyImpreza1111

Amen, lady!

It's just that when you say it's easy to love someone else, and though it was unspoken in that sentence, I know you were also alluding towards "even if you don't love yourself." Am I right?
Lets just say we are all watering cans and you come across a plant that needs to be watered. How can you water it when your watering can is empty?

Ladyimpreze1111 you are right that is what i was talking about. loving someone even if you do not love yourself. thats a nice metophore i like it.

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by Belle

I'm not sure on divorce rates but there's no reason why you need to be a part of any statistic. It's a shame I think that so many stats are done on such a subject when really it's all about personal relationships, lives and so on.

But yes there is part of me that desires what my grandparents had. My grandfather wrote a letter to my mother saying that he had chosen a wonderful helpmate - I think that was such a delicious turn of phrase. I'm sure it wasn't easy.

it would be interesting to what the satistics are but you are right that dose not matter. we could all learn something from the older generation. it seems like our elders had this type of love that is rare enity on a devine level. i'm sure back then it wasn't to hard to pick upon your mate. it seemed that men knew what to say and expressed thier feelings of love without being chastised for it.

[Nameless]

Well, this is a journey I have been on these past few years. Here is a couple things I learned that might help.

The Universe loves you. We are all made up of Love Energy. Everything we see is made up of this same energy. We all come from the same place and we are all Love. When you look at a child, as Henri suggested, doesn't that ring true? When you look at a dog, and look into that face, doesn't that ring true?

I tell myself every morning now, when I do my "mantra" - that thing I have learned to do for myself every morning, a huge part of it is, I Love Myself. There is much more to it, but as soon as I started adding that, it helped a lot.

I really think part of what we are here to learn is how to love ourselves. Somewhere along the way, we were told it is selfish to love ourselves, and everyone else should come first, their wants, their needs, their beliefs are much better than any we could ever think up for ourselves - we are programmed not to love ourselves, when you stop and actually think about it. So is it so hard to believe that we, as a world culture, have a problem with this? When we are young, it is fine to love ourselves, but once we begin trying to have a mind of our own, societal pressures are put upon us from everywhere.

So, just believe that you are Worthy of Love. Everyone is Worthy of Love. And everyone is loved. We are all a piece of God, and together we make up the whole of God / All That is / or insert whoever that is to you.

Hope that helps.