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Old 02-03-2018, 09:46 PM
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Unlike perhaps some I'm not a bookish middle class frump still in "university mode" therefore I see things a little more reality based - street level if you please.

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I don't claim to know but it was a theory based upon what has been said on many threads.

Hahahahahaha...! ...Jeez.
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Old 04-03-2018, 10:00 PM
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Hello Members

You will take note I have edited the thread and I will close it again for good if the behavior in it does not stop. Do not post anything in images that could hold "copy and paste restrictions for copy write" or content that is not respectful.

Show the respect that is deserved by all members if you have personal issues there is and "ignore" feature on the site. If you have issues with any comments made bring them to an Admin's attention to deal with them. We are here to help where we can.

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Old 04-03-2018, 11:45 PM
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Original Topic of the Thread.

Please do not put down other members thoughts as we all have that freedom to express our own personal perspective but not to down other's perspectives in doing so.


Why does he think I need his love?

I’m dealing with this crazy guy right now. He’s in love with me and cares way too much about me. He’s a stalker, so he knows all about how anxious I am. He’s sent me messages that say that being loved by someone will cure my anxiety. By someone I know he means him. He also said in a creepy message that all my anxiety will go away if I’ll let him hold me in his arms. I’m not into him and probably not into any men. I don’t think a girl loving me will cure my anxiety either. I just want something casual, but I’m even scared of that. I’m scared they’ll see how anxious I am and get creepily invested in me like that guy. I don’t need his or other people’s concern. I just want some fun. I just doubt that’s what I’ll get.
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Old 05-03-2018, 01:09 AM
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I'd like to ask the OP if anything has changed since your original posting?

Update if possible please?
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Old 05-03-2018, 08:53 PM
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I'd like to ask the OP if anything has changed since your original posting?

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I got banned on one forum we both posted on. I didn’t really care. I was getting bored of it anyways. He ended up emailing me. Which I think was really stalkerish. Since he got me banned he should just not contact me.
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Old 06-03-2018, 07:51 AM
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Well, that one is simple. Have his emails dumped in the spam box. You need never see them again and eventually (unless he's dangerous and hangs around outside your home) he'll get fed up in the end.

Besides, the story deepens. Why, if his conduct is as you describe in your opening post, did HE have you banned from a forum? Maybe because you wouldn't "give in"?

What was behind it?
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Old 06-03-2018, 02:59 PM
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The op behaves like a brat and speaks of men with contempt, so I actually feel sorry for the guy.
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Old 06-03-2018, 03:20 PM
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The op behaves like a brat and speaks of men with contempt, so I actually feel sorry for the guy.

Wrongthink!

Pile on by "spiritual" people in 3 ... 2 .. 1

Burn the heretic - damn him -- aaaaahhh !

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Old 06-03-2018, 06:34 PM
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The op behaves like a brat and speaks of men with contempt, so I actually feel sorry for the guy.

To be honest, I think it's not my place to characterise how she behaves. As I have not walked a mile in her exact pair of moccasins.

She has expressed that she feels physically and mentally threatened and intimidated, and that he has ignored her repeated requests to cease and desist.

Would you characterise her as such if she were a man being stalked by a very aggressive and much larger man, repeatedly pushing sex via unwanted intimacy in some fashion?

Where the man clearly felt that his boundaries and his sense of security and dignity were repeatedly violated and disrespected? That he might be forcibly raped and assaulted by this large gent who clearly gave evidence that he was after what he wanted (intimidation and sexual penetration of the other gent) regardless?

If you picked up anger and frustration in his words, would you sympathise and feel he had a right to his perceptions of threat and to his feelings?

Perhaps let's switch the person to a woman you care about, like your mum. Or a sister or family member or beloved friend. Would you take her seriously or would you call her names?

I think that, given we've not walked in her shoes directly, advice about how to deal with stalkers is much more prudent, IMO.

Just my thoughts, as many others have likewise also noted.

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Old 06-03-2018, 06:37 PM
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Paranoid Hippie - your observations, feelings and gut reactions are all critical. They are valid, and the events you have relayed confirm your concerns are reasonable and valid.

Please protect yourself, and consider putting your request for him to cease contact in writing if he persists. You may then notify HR, your supervisors, and/or the authorities. You may also go to court if need be to get a restraining order of some kind, if necessary.

You do have options and depending on whether he continues to harass you or not, I urge you to make use of them for your personal safety.

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