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Old 19-10-2011, 09:41 PM
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Mr. nice finishes last if he smiles at an error
of apologizing selfless, i have done that. you get the idea.

Mr. nice finishes reasonable if he just keeps his
mouth shut, i have done that. you get the idea

If Mr. nice doesn't proclaim how good he is because of
a great deed done, so non-experts would not howl to
that like party wolves then Mr. nice will be harder to
find his spot in this up-for-grabs limited-terms world. That i am.

a a punch in the gut (iliteral)to someone can be as
a simple brick to lay a build with to another. you get the idea

a punch in the face to someone can be an opportunity
to explore the reasons of forgiveness to another.


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Old 20-10-2011, 05:29 PM
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I think it's worth saying also, although it can feel frightening to think of saying NO, if you actually stand up and do it when the situation requires it instead of being afraid to upset people, it feels really, really good. I find it quite life affirming - and because I know I'm a kind, patient person, which to be 'nice' so much I'm sure you are too, I have faith in myself to know when I'm not being treated right. I'm sure you know it too, so trust that and don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. Saying no or expressing your opinion doesn't have to be confrontational, just simple and straightforward, anyone can do it :)
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Old 25-10-2011, 12:32 AM
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Sorry but that expression is silly.Everybody has their own best interests at heart, that is the nature of the game. Most of the time if you are getting shafted for being 'nice' it is probably that you are operating out of fear and you are being 'nice' hoping to avoid pain. However fear is a huge target and there are plenty of eager archers out there. Genuine caring and empathy has nothing to do with being 'nice'

I totally agree. The unfortunate part is I act "nice" out of fear. I wish I was genuine, caring and empathetic. I try. Oh well :)
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Old 25-10-2011, 04:29 AM
Arush Rehman
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Originally Posted by aser's homie
Mr. nice finishes last if he smiles at an error
of apologizing selfless, i have done that. you get the idea.

Mr. nice finishes reasonable if he just keeps his
mouth shut, i have done that. you get the idea

If Mr. nice doesn't proclaim how good he is because of
a great deed done, so non-experts would not howl to
that like party wolves then Mr. nice will be harder to
find his spot in this up-for-grabs limited-terms world. That i am.

a a punch in the gut (iliteral)to someone can be as
a simple brick to lay a build with to another. you get the idea

a punch in the face to someone can be an opportunity
to explore the reasons of forgiveness to another.



How lovely that poem has mirth sarcasm and a moral lesson. Thank You. =)
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Old 25-10-2011, 06:57 AM
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I feel like this has been said before but often times people act nice because they WANT something, they are not truly selfless. then again, it's very difficult to be sometimes. Those peole are essientially just as greedy or self-serving as those who do not hide their true nature. In fact, the inability to recieve what they want is further proof that manipulation (for lack of better words) isn't working. If you're being nice to get something, you may as well play like the big dogs and be openly manipulative.

I was a nice person out of fear and because of it feared everyone else. I was a nice person to receive good things, and I rarely received credit or lasting good. But to be "nice" without actively trying... it becomes your nature. You don't expect or need reward yet you receive it in little ways....and often :)

Recently, I helped a friend fish her glasses from the toilet. While she blindly stood above the toilet screaming (kinda funny), I ran into taco bell and asked for bag so that I could get it for her. It was disgusting but I did it without thinking. Quite honestly, I didn't receive anything for it. Nothing. At all. But I didn't realize it because I love her. A week or two later I received a very warm thank you from her.

Bottom line: Nice guys finish last if you feel entitled or ambitions arent pure. Nice people always finish first. IMO, it's in the small print (which eventually forms a very large gift). Also, if you're always finishing last, consider the grou of people you have surrounded yourself with, cycles youre stuck in, and how you can change them. :)

-From a rather nice gal (or so I'd like to think lol)

P.S- has definitely been covered, just read the other comments. :)
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Old 31-10-2011, 08:06 PM
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Originally Posted by Xan
Sometimes people think being caring and nice means being passive and/or avoiding caring for yourself as well.

When you go deeper into yourself and your inner heart you'll discover the strength of love as well as the empathy.

Here's how:
Heart Meditations - http://www.spiritualforums.com/vb/showthread.php?t=4106


Xan

There is so much truth here I will come back to it :)
Love is strength and compassion, yes.
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Old 31-10-2011, 08:09 PM
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Originally Posted by WhiteShaman
Since you said "everyone" which includes me, I will have to take exception to this.
If that is how you are.........fine. It is not my nature and never has been nor was it the firemens nature that ran into the collapsing twin towers to save strangers in need.

I'm in agreement with you, WS.
Many ppl, including me, have risked their lives numerous times and it was without thinking or weighing the options. Only that someone needed help and I was there and able to provide that help.

I too am convinced it is an intrinsic part of our nature, at least for many of us.
No one ever questioned me or asked why. People help each other out and always have. Just as ppl have done the opposite as well.

peace & blessings,
7L
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Old 31-10-2011, 08:10 PM
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I don't look at people acting in a non caring way as not caring cuz I know they are.
I also know that there is no such thing as being nice. It needs to be natural, so being true to oneself results for me in niceness and I'd like to think it helps others see past their uncaring actions. I really have no choice but to be who I am and it is nice.
James

Nicely said. Agreed.
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Old 31-10-2011, 08:19 PM
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Originally Posted by Racer X
Do nice people finish last?

In a race with only themselves they finish first and last~


In a race to be a pig, they finish last which is ironically......first.


Do not strive to be "nice" nor strive to get ahead~

Strive to "Be" who and what YOU always were but have forgotten, strive to remember!

The point here about being who you are is a critical one I think. It's not just a philosophical exercise.

We do what we feel is right in that moment. We have to live with ourselves and be in accord with our own inner guidance.

If some do not appreciate your kindness, you are not wrong in your orientation to life, the universe, & everything. The crowd at large is not the definitive measure of your worth or your beliefs. Only you are, and you know better than they ;)

However you can always choose to direct your energies away from some situations and toward others.

peace & blessings,
7L
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Old 04-11-2011, 03:00 AM
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yes nice people finish last i say this from my own experiences in life...
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