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Old 14-01-2018, 06:13 AM
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If I were diagnosed with a terminal illness, I would do my best to not tell anyone about it. I would not be able to handle 'the look' and the 'extra long hugs' and fake niceties.

People treat you differently when you are dying. If I am being a jerk, I would want my loved ones to take me on about this and tell me as much. But the fact is everyone seems to tolerate and ignore the presence 'bad behavior' just because someone is 'dying'

Truth is, each and every one of us is busy dying, with every breath we take, every single day. Just because an official diagnosis has been made, people seem to treat the afflicted as though they were a porcelain doll.

As much as we want to be there for people, understand for a moment the pain they feel with each visitor and phone call, and can see the look in people's eyes - the look that says is this the last time I will see you?

The process of leaving this world is a personal one - as each of our grieving process is different, so it must be with the person leaving us. We should respect that and allow them to leave on their terms..?
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Old 14-01-2018, 06:13 AM
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If I were diagnosed with a terminal illness, I would do my best to not tell anyone about it. I would not be able to handle 'the look' and the 'extra long hugs' and fake niceties.

People treat you differently when you are dying. If I am being a jerk, I would want my loved ones to take me on about this and tell me as much. But the fact is everyone seems to tolerate and ignore the presence 'bad behavior' just because someone is 'dying'

Truth is, each and every one of us is busy dying, with every breath we take, every single day. Just because an official diagnosis has been made, people seem to treat the afflicted as though they were a porcelain doll.

As much as we want to be there for people, understand for a moment the pain they feel with each visitor and phone call, and can see the look in people's eyes - the look that says is this the last time I will see you?

The process of leaving this world is a personal one - as each of our grieving process is different, so it must be with the person leaving us. We should respect that and allow them to leave on their terms..?
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Old 14-01-2018, 06:13 AM
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If I were diagnosed with a terminal illness, I would do my best to not tell anyone about it. I would not be able to handle 'the look' and the 'extra long hugs' and fake niceties.

People treat you differently when you are dying. If I am being a jerk, I would want my loved ones to take me on about this and tell me as much. But the fact is everyone seems to tolerate and ignore the presence 'bad behavior' just because someone is 'dying'

Truth is, each and every one of us is busy dying, with every breath we take, every single day. Just because an official diagnosis has been made, people seem to treat the afflicted as though they were a porcelain doll.

As much as we want to be there for people, understand for a moment the pain they feel with each visitor and phone call, and can see the look in people's eyes - the look that says is this the last time I will see you?

The process of leaving this world is a personal one - as each of our grieving process is different, so it must be with the person leaving us. We should respect that and allow them to leave on their terms..?
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Old 14-01-2018, 09:11 AM
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some people may not want to be seen like that.

some dont want to be a burden on another.
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Old 19-01-2018, 03:23 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss, ssdm1.

I think some people don't want to be reminded of it, and will avoid such happening at all costs - even if that means avoiding compassionate people such as yourself. When I've had loved ones pass, I don't want to talk about it for a while. I just want to grieve and be in denial by myself for a while. Perhaps that is how some people feel. They just don't want to talk about it and be viewed the same as they always are. Similar to what Nimue said.
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