How to love yourself?

[CardiacJack]

Hi green1. Thank you for posing this question.

And hi everyone else. Thank you for the wonderful answers.

Reading through this thread has been really helpful today, having found myself void of love for myself recently.

I don't really have much more to add myself, other than that it's nice to know that others think about these things too, and can get through periods such as the one I find myself in now. I have actually come through depression and a lack of love for myself before - which kind of made me feel stupid for letting myself slip back into it again after the strength and realisations I had found previously. But I guess the painful end of a loving relationship and the subsequent loss of my job could do that to me still, no matter how strong I thought I was before.

Anyway that's enough about me. Just thank you for being involved in this discussion everybody and I hope more humans can learn to love themselves. If I can ever help anyone to do that myself then I'll feel like I was worthwhile. But I do need to learn to love myself again first...

[davidsun]

Originally Posted by CardiacJack

Hi green1. Thank you for posing this question.

And hi everyone else. Thank you for the wonderful answers.

Reading through this thread has been really helpful today, having found myself void of love for myself recently.

I don't really have much more to add myself, other than that it's nice to know that others think about these things too, and can get through periods such as the one I find myself in now. I have actually come through depression and a lack of love for myself before - which kind of made me feel stupid for letting myself slip back into it again after the strength and realisations I had found previously. But I guess the painful end of a loving relationship and the subsequent loss of my job could do that to me still, no matter how strong I thought I was before.

Anyway that's enough about me. Just thank you for being involved in this discussion everybody and I hope more humans can learn to love themselves. If I can ever help anyone to do that myself then I'll feel like I was worthwhile. But I do need to learn to love myself again first...

Hi Jack - been 'there' n done 'that' - in big and small ways, more times than I can count myself. Doing better and better as I go along. More and more grateful for all of Life's experiences and opportunities to learn/grow.

[AngelRain]

One thing I realized with self love is you need to figure out when it stopped. Did you grow up in an abusive household where your parents constantly put you down? Or your school mates? Try to find out who and what put out your flame

[Molearner]

How to love yourself? Remember that God loves you....)

[davidsun]

Originally Posted by Molearner

How to love yourself? Remember that God loves you....)

That's what I call a 'sky' 'hook'!

[Molearner]

First of all, I stand by the validity of my previous and very short response. Now to expand it somewhat....:) I have been thinking that to love one's self some self therapy is necessary. One has to find a friend.....one that loves you. I grew up on a farm.....largely isolated from neighbors or any nearby children that could be potential playmates. I had a brother that was 6 years younger and obviously in the same situation. His 'playmates' were imaginary friends....he would walk with a stick and talk to himself and them. My closest friend was my dog....man's best friend. He was my closest and most trusted confidant. I could share everything without fear of judgement. I suppose it bears some similarities with a therapist for adults. They are there to listen and not render judgement. They serve as a means to heal ourselves.

These imaginary friends share something with our concept of God. I would suggest that God initially is largely a product of one's imagination. We make Him into what we wish Him to be. If it is our choice at that age to form Him as we will it will be in a manner that is acceptable to us. We strive to make that dream come true. If one grows up exposed to church it becomes a part of our forming of the concept. In my case(and I suspect many others) the simple church song for children....Jesus Loves Me.....is one of those influences. A song for adults might be Spirit in the Sky...….I can almost hear the lyrics in my mind especially since Budweiser? is currently using some of the music(without lyrics) in a commercial.

Part of the second verse to refresh your memories....)

Prepare yourself you know it' a must
Gotta have a friend in Jesus
So you know that when you die
He's gonna recommend you
To the spirit in the sky...……..

LOL....can you hear the song?

In short I am saying that if you can imagine that God loves you what is stopping you from loving yourself? Do you really think that you know more about yourself than God does? For me, this knowledge...belief....assurance should be the basic starting point for loving yourself.

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by AngelRain

One thing I realized with self love is you need to figure out when it stopped.
Did you grow up in an abusive household where your parents constantly put you down?
Or your school mates? Try to find out who and what put out your flame

What great insight!

And yes, the Dr. Newton sessions are so good for this thread!

[FairyCrystal]

Abraham had a great solution for this, which I think is the only solution:
Focus on loving, so on flowing love for someone, something and so on.
Which comes down to being grateful, to appreciate. You cannot not love yourself when you're loving and appreciating.

Find and get to know the Source of Divine Love.

Throw out anything that is not that.

Then it will flow through you.

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by ImthatIm

Find and get to know the Source of Divine Love.
Throw out anything that is not that.

This! ^

(My advice? Ask for it...and keep on asking if you have to, to keep the sincere desire
in your heart.)
From the Other Side to James E. Padgett I will paraphrase what Constantine said:
With all the power I have I tell you, ask the Father for His Divine Love. 💓