Favour higher vibrations or go with all of it

[Free1]

Most here will know what I mean if I use the terms lower and higher vibrations, and I think this relates to it. I have started to sense I want to get away from certain things.

As an effect of a change in my body/mind, I am sensitive in another way. Sometimes I just want to get away from the current situation. Earlier in life I have tolerated it with patience, but now I just want to get away.

For example I saw a group of young men walking the street with beer bottles in their hands, and I felt I wanted to get away from the sight. I guess my body remembered the sensation of alcohol and wanted to get away from it.

What to do in these situations? Should one avoid all of it, or should one adapt to it. For example if a group of friends ask to join them at some bar, should one play along and learn to stay in these environments, or instead do something else. (my guess it is better to do something else, but I wanted to hear your views)

Also certain ways people express themselves makes me feel I want to get away (mainly noticed it with youtube videos).

[BuzzCap7]

GREAT post my friend, really a good one.

"You are who you associate with." as I think the saying goes.

Having said that and not wanting to be contradictory (which I likely will be in a moment), I have always said no to situations I am not interested in like being in the bar scene you referenced.

Lately I have been experimenting by saying YES when I normally would say no and be more tolerant of others. (Said humbly of course.) And so far I have found that as long as the activity is not illegal; enjoy the people. Be more loving, compassionate and yes again tolerant than I have ever been. Enjoy the ppl, enjoy the interaction.

If I may suggest, follow the guidance of the little guy inside you. I have found that little guy to be pretty darn accurate.

Not sure if the above was helpful, but it was my 2 cents.

BuzzCap7

[Free1]

Thanks! :) good thoughts! I was thinking maybe there is a danger of becoming a spiritual snob if one ignores or dismiss a lot of the "normal" things.

There is no hard and fast rule. Being able to understand what is fear/dislike or even arrogance (re your comment about spiritual snobbery)... and what is intuition or from some 'higher' aspect of self (not a word I would use, but I understand what you're trying to say).

But when it comes to decision making, the word 'I' is quite significant because it addresses where you stand and what is within you, rather than judging others based on an image of self as a bench mark.

An example of my own being, that I wouldn't want to go out to noisy bars or night clubs because I find the noise, the drunkenness and the energies that creates quite difficult to cope with, let alone enjoy... but that is about my difficulties and I accept that. But for me, the benefits of my sensitivities mean that these are not difficulties that I feel a need to overcome, so I feel ok about avoiding them.

Thankfully, I'm in my forties now and not many people are asking me to go out clubbing. But it is also a reality that socialising often requires some amount of compromise or understanding of the chosen consequences if it feels too much to compromise on, and that's about finding your own lines and boundaries and taking responsibility for your own choices as well as the consequences that arise from them.

[naturesflow]

Originally Posted by Free1

Most here will know what I mean if I use the terms lower and higher vibrations, and I think this relates to it. I have started to sense I want to get away from certain things.

As an effect of a change in my body/mind, I am sensitive in another way. Sometimes I just want to get away from the current situation. Earlier in life I have tolerated it with patience, but now I just want to get away.

For example I saw a group of young men walking the street with beer bottles in their hands, and I felt I wanted to get away from the sight. I guess my body remembered the sensation of alcohol and wanted to get away from it.

What to do in these situations? Should one avoid all of it, or should one adapt to it. For example if a group of friends ask to join them at some bar, should one play along and learn to stay in these environments, or instead do something else. (my guess it is better to do something else, but I wanted to hear your views)

Also certain ways people express themselves makes me feel I want to get away (mainly noticed it with youtube videos).

Its hard to face life in everyway of itself, especially when you feel the way you do. You are unique as others are too, so listening to what you want to do and who you wish to be around is part of you and your choice of being you.

Breaking free from old patterns of tolerance, often reflects much along the way of what you do and where you go and who you participate with, when you start to feel your intolerance..

I often self reflect even so, to clear out any feelings that might be blocking me from participating in life in other ways.....because sometimes the aversion can keep us locked out from the life we can create for ourselves..

[GreenGazer]

Great thread. I personally think it is good to put yourself out of your comfort zone sometimes. It can certainly help you become more tolerant and less sensitive. Maybe voluntarily putting ones' self in such situations helps you develop coping mechanisms for when you may be forced into a situation outside of your comfort zone. It depends on how people effect you. I can blend in well with any crowd however some the energy of the crowd always rubs off on me too. So I just limit the amount of time or the frequency of those situations out of my comfort zone but I still definitely see value in the times I choose to put myself outside that zone.

[Tobi]

The way I look at it is you are not being any kind of 'snob' because you have instinctually outgrown some of the things that many humans hold dear.
I am the same. I am happy to mix in with people who still have needs for things I have no need or desire for at all. (such as designer bags....foreign holidays...wonderful cars...) I can still find some common ground even though our desires are different. Yes they think of me as a 'little bit strange'. But my sense of humour usually helps, and friendliness.

If you don't like alcohol, then you must stand up for how you feel, and drink soft drinks. I like a pint now and again, but believe me, if I didn't, I would be happy to drink Coke or lemonade, and my friends wouldn't have to mind (though I know there would be some comments! So what?)