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Originally Posted by nammyoho
I've been depressed before. I've been downright suicidal before. This feels different and strange. I don't know who or what to believe so it's like I believe in both nothing and everything. I feel very uncertain and like everything is out of my control which sounds like panic but it's not. I kinda like it. I've spent so much energy blaming myself for every little thing to go 'wrong' in my life that I haven't taken the time to look around and see what's right- and how everything that has ever gone sour eventually turned out beautiful no matter what. I've just lost control of my surroundings but I'm taking it as a reminder that all I can control is my own views, reactions, beliefs. Maybe I've been taking things too personally.
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Well, you can make a start.
Forget all the philosophical arguments right now about what is and what isn't....You're here, alive. Basically you can trust what you see. You can trust what you have around you.
Do you have any daily routines (beyond getting up and going to bed)? One should imagine so, so you can trust them. If you really don't have (or THINK you don't have routines, then turn what you can into a routine - washing, making breakfast, popping out for a coffee, whatever. (I'm no great supporter of routines but when you really feel despairing, they are things you can depend on.)
Your problems...well, it's important to own our problems but we may not always be responsible for their causes. The only way away out is to deal with them as best as you can. Sharing what seems a problem, talking it through like here for instance, is a way of reducing its effect...often a good way to get a better perspective on a problem.
You have to find ways to stop blaming yourself for every mishap in your life. Hence meditation. It may help you comprehend a little more what any given problem actually was, which is often a way to solving it. You can't solve a problem without a good grip on what that problem was about. ....You know what - this so often comes back to our parents, directly or indirectly - making us
feel wrong, claiming we've let them down....when all the time they've let us down. They haven't allowed us to grow. They've refused to accept we're people in our own right, even when in pre-adolescence, adolescence...
In fact I'd go as far as to say that I bet a few of your problems come from your parents.
But here you are, recognising you're having a difficult time, maybe an "identity crisis" on the material world - maybe not - I could be wrong.
And I reiterate your first effort should be to affirm yourself into optimism. Miss Hepburn came up with some great ideas. When you wake up, be glad about the day. Look out of the window and see Nature...whatever's out there if you have any view at all comes from Nature. Tell yourself something great is going to happen about the day. Think of things about the day that are likely to be good. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that healing is on its way; things get better all the time.
Give it a go.
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