How do I achieve this state of mind?

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by Flexi-Girl

I just noticed this.

The biggest problem with achieving the right state of mind are unconscious emotional triggers and automatic habits
creating a domino effect.
I am not sure how much control I have over them right now,
but I will continue to study them throughout the day.

That's right.
However, why 'study them'...that's a therapist's technique, sure...
LOA is a bit different - take the focus off the problem.

Example: "I don't like this horror movie - let's watch it longer to figure out why."
Alternative: Change the darn channel to a more pleasant show.

Practice makes perfect - you want to change these triggers - think forgiving thoughts each time
about the person in your past or presently that triggers you.
After awhile new pathways are actually made in the brain...
thinking kinder thoughts will become the norm.


I've done it - the first 2 weeks are surprising at how many many unpleasant, unproductive, unwanted thoughts come onto the head!
Sat, "No", to them.

[Flexi-Girl]

Oh but I do so enjoy a good horror flick

[inavalan]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

...
Example: "I don't like this horror movie - let's watch it longer to figure out why."
Alternative: Change the darn channel to a more pleasant show.
...

Exactly! ...

[inavalan]

Originally Posted by Flexi-Girl

Oh but I do so enjoy a good horror flick

That isn't a benign pleasure! ...

[inavalan]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

If a person is, say, an atheist...it still remains that
our thoughts create our situations.
So call ourselves the creator if you will.
Demand from yourself...for example to stop thinking, 'I'm never going to get this job - This relationship will end like all the others'...see?
Demand that to your own mind to think more positively - 'I'm the best
person for this job. They will see that immediately, esp when I project a cherry attitude and confidence for the position."

Do that enough and it gets programmed in the subconscious mind and positivity and hope become a habit.
Ref the work of Dr. Candace Pert or Dr. Caroline Leaf -regarding how the brain does this.

Believers In God can talk to Shiva or Jesus...or the impersonal Universe.
My take.

You're preaching here to the choir ... We may see some details and symbolism differently, but agree in essence.

[Flexi-Girl]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

That's right.
However, why 'study them'...that's a therapist's technique, sure...
LOA is a bit different - take the focus off the problem.

Example: "I don't like this horror movie - let's watch it longer to figure out why."
Alternative: Change the darn channel to a more pleasant show.

Practice makes perfect - you want to change these triggers - think forgiving thoughts each time
about the person in your past or presently that triggers you.
After awhile new pathways are actually made in the brain...
thinking kinder thoughts will become the norm.


I've done it - the first 2 weeks are surprising at how many many unpleasant, unproductive, unwanted thoughts come onto the head!
Sat, "No", to them.

I have found avoiding negative thoughts has not been good for me.

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by Flexi-Girl

I have found avoiding negative thoughts has not been good for me.

What happens? Can you tell us all about it?

[Flexi-Girl]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

What happens? Can you tell us all about it?

There is this kind of stigma especially in our society that anything deemed negative should be avoided.

If somebody is being rude, they're just being negative.
If someone criticizes you, they're just being negative.
Anything that feels uncomfortable, possibly beneficial, is just negative.

If I say something stupid, or am misinterpreted, and you get upset with me? I could think you're being negative, and think I must have attracted this because of my own negativity.

The problem here is the lack of awareness. Instead of looking at how my words might have affected you, I short-change the discovery process by dismissing you, labeling you as negative. It's very immature. By that I mean I don't learn from my mistakes, nor am I being fair to either of us.

To me negativity is valuable information. It's not something to be scorned.

[Miss Hepburn]

Thanks.
Negativity is valuable.
If I linger in it, however, what good does it do me?
See it,
learn from it,
decide you don't care for it and
leave it.

No need to judge others...I don't judge a bloody crime show..
I see it,
decide it does me no good,
doesn't benefit me,
don't like the feeling it gives me and
turn the channel.
Easy peasy.

It's more about me, then anyone else.

I don't hang with certain people with the same dispassion as
deciding that restaurant is not for me.
No harm, no foul.

Life seems like a swimming pool party to me...if I'm bored with (not enjoying) something
I just say, "Hey look they're serving Pina Coladas over there"...and swim over and don't go back.
No judgment or labeling of them involved...it's preferences.

This works for me anyway.

[Ewwerrin]

It is funny, because the moment you talk about the very thing you wish you to activate, you have actually already activated it in that moment. So you ask how do I activate this thing which I have actually already activated?

So the only thing that blocks your full achievement of the state of mind you wish to achieve, is the self doubting or self contradictory thought, that you can always feel emotionally, when you are contradicting your own desire, as you are contemplating it and activating it and focusing upon it. And as you let go of the self contradictory / resistant thought, then your greater allowed realisation of your desire naturally unfolds and expands. And gains energy motional momentum and power, by virtue of the consistency of your holding your purely allowed to be fully realised non-contradicted desire in your conscious awareness, which allows for the expansion and greater allowed realisation of that desire, naturally, effortlessly and very enjoyably.