What is the obstacle

[Roses Are Red]

I asked the rider deck what is the obstacle why X has not contacted me.
Nothing come up revered.

I got the star, the king of cups, and the 9 of pentacles.

The Star- optimistic view on the situation.

The king of cups - that could be him and his in denial of what happend, he doesnt see fault in this actions. X is playing the field and has moved on.

The Nine of Pentacles- Is that me? or another women? its more how I personally see myself.or, X is doing his own thing is happier without me. X has moved on.

Clearfier - will X contact me - The Moon, yes.

Anyone have any ideas? please share.

[H:O:R:A:C:E]

the Star would be the general atmosphere surrounding your question.
insight, inspiration, and hope are the indicated qualities. there is also
the promise that "great love will be given and received" -- will be.

the King of Cups would represent the principles involved, and this seems
to speak strictly of your love interest [whom i don't know to be the
particular person you've imagined]. he is a man who is "kind and
considerate, and willing to take responsibility (which doesn't seem
to accurately describe the guy you've indicated). it may be that your
"true love" is someone other than who you've set your heart to.

the Nine of Pentacles would represent the resolution of the query.
i see this as representing you, having attained wisdom of where
your own interests are, and enjoying 'solitude' (without a need
for someone else to "complete you").

the Moon qualifier is acting as a wildcard; it has both positive
and negative connotations. there is an idea of you gaining in
intuition and psychic skills, but also the challenge of deception
to be aware of.

on the whole, i'd say that your spread seems to indicate that
you'll get the loving relationship you seek (it was promised at
the outset), but it may require that you reach a place in your
evolution that you just don't need it anymore (paradoxically?).

[Roses Are Red]

Thank you Horace,
It seems whenever I do a spread about him and I, I get the king of cups and 9of pents. I tried not to be the 9 of pents, I wanted the right type of companionship. :(
I seek solitude from ** / drama.

I did a spread once on him n I whether he will contact me. I got the queen of swords, the 4 of pents, king of cups.

[H:O:R:A:C:E]

Roses Are Red: I seek solitude from ** / drama.

instead of solitude from, think of solitude for.
imagine that you're standing guard at the doorway to your home. (it's huge.)
inside your dwelling there's a magnificent garden, and all manner of happy
creatures and banquet tables and dancing and music and sunshine and....
when party guests arrive you invite them in, gladly, but only if they're
willing to leave their dramas and ** outside.
all the happy things you've ever encountered are inside your home,
because you've always invited them in. there's no need for you to
go out in search of happiness when you've got so much of it with
you already... just be willing to invite more inside if/when it makes
itself available by knocking at your door.

[Roses Are Red]

Wow well explained Horace! thank you for that.

One more question, what was the obstacle? obstacle why X has not contacted me?

[H:O:R:A:C:E]

maybe it was timing.
it that earlier spread, the king of cups was the 'resolution', and in
the more recent spread that card has moved into the present tense.
things have progressed for you.
the earlier cards had shown you as if the queen of swords, "mourning
for those she loves who are far away". [i'm quoting from my book.]
the 4 of pentacles indicated success, but only in a material sense
(having the body of a loved one present without the spirit would've
been unsatisfactory). the obstacle to you having that manifest at
that time may have been an intuitive knowledge that the form w/o
the substance wasn't sufficient. the resolution there became the
energies you're involved with now, and the happy solitude you're
moving into will likely provide you with opportunities for greater
things to come afterwards.

[Roses Are Red]

interesting thank you, I have trouble understanding it.. lol
Thank you for taking the time to explain it. so the obstacle was time, to my question... "what is the obstacle why X has not contacted me."

I still do like the 9 of pents :(

Should I draw a clearifier? and what shall I ask, I am still working on asking questions correctly.

Thank you!

[Inika]

his healing, calmed his emotions and discovering his own independence.

if you;d call that an obstacle as to why he dont contact you.

the moon comes as a warning. I'd not see it as a yes card.

[H:O:R:A:C:E]

Originally Posted by Roses Are Red

interesting thank you, I have trouble understanding it.. lol
Thank you for taking the time to explain it. so the obstacle was time, to my question... "what is the obstacle why X has not contacted me."

I still do like the 9 of pents :(

Should I draw a clearifier? and what shall I ask, I am still working on asking questions correctly.

Thank you!

the timing was bad, on his end, yes.
the other factor acting as an obstacle for contact was/is your desire to keep
the dramas outside (he's been unable to separate himself from them).
the thing for you to do, according to the cards, is to find joy in your solitude.
the 'longing' you may feel is something to be embraced, and appreciated;
keep it and feel the joy within it that holds promises of things yet to come.
i agree with Inika that the Moon card carries a warning against deceptions...
don't be fooled by forms which lack fulfilling substance.
raise your vibrations through joyous solitude, and prepare yourself to
greet things which you've been unaccustomed to, due to them existing
at a higher energy level (of happiness) than you've been accustomed.

[Roses Are Red]

Thank you Horace ! omg true that! I tried to keep the drama outside, and it appears that he attracted the drama (it was weird). His sister caused us alot of negative drama, so much so that he stopped talking to her.
I left him, just to make the drama go away (it was taking alot out of me). It was like taking off a giant heavy coat. And right away I started a new job/ made nice new friends to occupy my time with in a productive manner :)

very insightful Horace! TY . :)

TY Inika - what does the warning mean? "like dont go back his bad news ?" I will not make an effort to contact him, he hurt my feelings.