Soulmate is my mom

[IndigoGeminiWolf]

My mom and I always end up together. She always ends up living with me. We don't always get along. It is hard sometimes. But she is spiritual like I am, and it gives us something to talk about. We both love dogs, and we both love cartoons and technology.

Can one's soulmate be their mother? I was told this in a reading by someone I trust who was very knowledgeable about spiritual concepts.

And if she is my soulmate from another star system, should I feel obligated to always treat her nice even when she's cursing her head off and shouting and scaring me? She gets REALLY angry even when she misplaces her glasses and is very verbal about it.

In contrast, I am somewhat of a slob and that gets on her nerves. She sometimes has to clean up after me or sweep up my dog's fur from the floor. Maybe I'm just lazy.

But I want her to know after this life that I tried to be a good person. And I've never put her down. She likes to put me down and insult me, and that's just her character.

I can't probably tell her she's my soulmate. I don't know if that would help.

[LadyMay]

Yes family members are often soulmates. Usually it's said we end up reincarnating with the same family members over and over again. If you believe in reincarnation then it makes sense. I am not sure what I believe, though at one point I felt a soulmate connection with my own mother too. Though I have grown apart from her a lot recently, maybe a result of individuation. I think who we resonate with can change and maybe isn't always the same.

[7luminaries]

I don't think we reincarnate along with most of our family members in any lifetime. I do think we may reincarnate with a few folks more often and they may or may not be family by blood. They may also be family by choice (best mates, partners, etc). Depending on the lifetime.

But I do think that we may see or cross paths with many familiar souls in many lifetimes. These may make up at least of portion of the cast of souls we encounter in our lives.
Only you can say if your mum is a close soulmate. If you feel she is and that she is deeply familiar to you (aside from just being your mum) then you would know best.

Sometimes your family is not close soul family and you do the best you can to get along. It can be hard if there is a degree of dissonance and no driving motivation or bond to build on and mend fences.
Just as sometimes your family is close soul soul family and you do the best you can to get along. It can be hard if there is past life stuff to be worked through and one or the other (or both) are not ready and instead engage more hurtfully and less mindfully. It sounds like it's more the latter here regarding your mum and her temper. My mum had the same problem -- but then so did my cold, detached dad too later -- go figure.

I was the rock in the sand, too. I just said nothing and took it, and mum would calm down. Whilst my dad could rage for ....endlessly really, days on end, if things weren't going well for him.. But then I have never felt as close to him so perhaps that's why it didn't do me in, in the end. Meaning, I always felt mum's soul is closer to me and to my brother, if not in temperance then at least in open-heartedness and emotional generosity. That is, as kids at least we felt she loved us freely and without much resentment. That counts for a lot.

Either of these situations (close or distant soul fam) present challenges and opportunities in the family, really. So either way, whatever you do to develop and mend and grow your relationship with your mum is all good, IMO. Just remember to care for yourself equally...including knowing when to disengage if needed and take time for yourself.

Peace & blessings
7L