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Old 22-01-2017, 10:34 AM
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So, I did a lot of work on my self esteem in 2016, I thought I was doing really well, but...... a friend of mine had a party today and we weren't invited. No matter how much I tell myself there is probably a good reason, I feel hurt that I wasn't invited, I just want to get over this (what I consider to be a weakness in myself, fear of being left out etc). Is this inherent in human nature, or inherent in me?
It drives me mad!
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Well, we're social animals, so yeah, in that respect you could say it's inherent in our nature to take it badly if we feel we've been ostracised. It's perfectly understandable that you'd feel that way, and I'm sure most of us can relate to the hurt of feeling that we've been left out. What I would say is, don't deny the pain - I know you want to improve your self-esteem and it probably feels like a set-back that you're hurt by the lack of an invite, but the fact is that you do feel hurt, and there's nothing wrong with that. So it's fine, be with the hurt, maybe have a good cry if you feel like it, that's always good for the soul

Oh, and maybe it'd be a good idea to tell your friend how you're feeling about the situation, she might be more understanding than you think and there could be a logical explanation for why she didn't invite you.
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Old 09-02-2017, 10:12 PM
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So, I did a lot of work on my self esteem in 2016, I thought I was doing really well, but...... a friend of mine had a party today and we weren't invited. No matter how much I tell myself there is probably a good reason, I feel hurt that I wasn't invited, I just want to get over this (what I consider to be a weakness in myself, fear of being left out etc). Is this inherent in human nature, or inherent in me?
It drives me mad!
Xx
LOL, I found self esteem work to be very effective at reducing or even eliminating personal pain from snubs or contempt, etc. by others I'd either continue with self esteem work or consider finding ways to stop believing in the "self" who gets hurt. Try this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVdsVwiRTvI
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