Need advise or direction

Well, I am in the mists of a similar situation. I decided that the leap was worth more than risk. I left and got involved with the other women (although I did not know her that long at all) however she is not single either and things remain complicated. My old comfortable relationship will be something I always treasure but it lives in the past, a wonderful and needed thing. I have no regrets. I have been more honest with my ex then was ever possible well I remained in the relationship and as we get through the hard emotions on both sides things are turning out very good for both of us. Many hard conversations later. Integrity is always the right choice. It hurts no doubt, but the path is clear at least in my eyes. Good luck with your choice my friend.

I think that staying in a marriage where you are just good friends is'nt good enough. The fact that the spark has gone after only 6 years, and that you want kids, and she does'nt is also a problem. Be honest with your wife, ask for a seperation. The days are gone where we stayed married for better or worse.

Well, we did talk a little bit this weekend, my wife and I. I had some thing confirmed that I've thought were true for a while. She said that she has not been physically attracted to me for a couple years now, which would explain why the spark has gone. I have placed my other "relationship" on hold while my wife and I talk through some things. I'll keep you posted on what happens...