Do we become that who we resist?

[Moonglow]

Originally Posted by Flexi-Girl

Hi Moonglow,

Maybe those who seem opposed are that way to begin with as in "like attracts like".

It could be that " like attracts like" for some. For could be comfort of some kind may be found or felt. " No one is opposing my beliefs or view point" sort of thing. Just some thoughts on this.

I don't feel one is necessarily born to "resist". Babies seem pretty open to being loved and open. Unless something happens to him/her that causes a change or mistrust.

There is comfort to be found in having support. This can go both ways. Supporting ones beliefs and being strict or supporting ones choice and being open.

Resistance can go both ways as well. Much like someone who may go through the pains of addiction and resist getting help because fearful of the pain of withdrawal or changing ones life or simply does not have the support around him/her. Or someone resisting anything to do with that lifestyle because he/she feels it is destructive.

Sometimes the demon known in a strange way can be more comforting then that which is unknown, for some, IMO. For the unknown can be frightening for some and some may simply not know any other way to be.

It can be complex, for humans are complex beings.

Guess may depend where one is at in life. If another sees a person as resisting something, perhaps it is the other who is resisting to being open or accepting how that person lives or views life.

Just some thoughts on this. It is an interesting question.

[Seawolf]

Originally Posted by Flexi-Girl

So are you suggesting that some people are traumatized at a vulnerable time in their lives leaving them somehow impressed upon? Or they may simply be that way to start with, therefore they unconsciously project their insecurities onto others?

Trauma usually gets stuck in the body. When it happens during development, it results in a pattern that keeps reoccuring throughout life. Like when someone keeps indadvertantly getting in relationships with abusive people, they're unconciously choosing partners like their original abuser, which may be a parent.

The tendency towards extremes is similar, it's basically re-living old trauma, which was obviously an intense experience. The reason we continue to relive old trauma is we're unconsciously trying to resolve it somehow. But it doesn't get resolved, it just keeps reoccurning over and over throughtout life. The mind isn't able to fix itself that way, we need help to guide us to feel safe and learn to be compassionate with ourselves so we can slowly release the trauma.