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Originally Posted by 002 Cents
I couldn't help but notice some remarkably identical lines being used between a guy I dated and a guy someone I know is dating. So It made me wonder if there wasn't some instructional material out there about how to bag an American girl and sure enough...
There is...
https://kennyspuathoughts.com/
Im not going to support this kind of nonsense by buying his book but it is rather enlightening to read through and see the tactics these folks use.
.. and he is thorough! not only American women, but married women, women you meet online, women you meet on the street, foreign women...
So what is the strategy to not getting played? I don't know... Maybe just don't play the game at all.
Pigs just aren't worth the trouble and REAL men are hard to find.
And in my experience even when you do land a real one... you might get a good 10 years before he cheats...
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Thank you so much for your post 002 Cents, and I just wanted to comment on this from my male perspective :)
When I read through some of his tips and techniques on how to be a 'babe magnet' *rolls eyes*
, two things crossed my mind.
The first is what a shallow and superficial way to treat women. Talk about devalue rather than value, when he considers that his life's 'success' is based on the amount of women he has slept with. Doh!
I'm afraid he will never see the true beauty of women, how precious equality is, and how breath-taking it is to lay in blissful love with a special woman. Where the whole Universe melts in the moment when two become one. Where intimacy is so very sacred.
I'm afraid his experiences will never be rich in the truest sense of the word. Where I am sure he will always regard his fortune to be in wealth and conquests rather than sensual feelings. So I smile compassionately at his loss.
The second thing is why do some women actually fall for this dross? Although I'm sure there are many that want to play the same game, and for those that do then I respect their freedom of choice.
That said,surely at the very heart of every men and woman is the desire for a beautiful, caring and loving relationship on every level. Not just physical, but emotionally and spiritually too?
Although I am single at the moment, when it comes to my next relationship it will mean so much to me to find someone who will invest in me as I invest in her. Not one sided, or even 50/50 - but 100/100. Where I can cherish her for who she is while still advocating her beautiful individually and independence. For her to be a Free Spirit.
So while I regard myself as someone kind and sensitive, I also appreciate I have my imperfections too. This allows me to develop and grow with someone who compliments my spiritual energy.
I am so humbled by you and your hearfelt position over your marriage, and see your wonderful strength of character. I also understand your general observations over red flags, although I appreciate each of us do have our subtle differences where I love giving compliments. Although admittedly it wouldn't just be about physical appearance :)
I do think you raise a fabulous point about unjustified negative associations so we can be forgiving and love someone for who they really are. I too agree that friendship is every bit as important in a romantic relationship.
If anything I ultimately believe this alludes to the most important aspect of all - trust. For the giving of anyone's trust is not a right or expectation, but has to be earned and treasured. Where I see trust as 'the' key foundation.
As the most precious gift of love that each of us possess can only ever be sustainably where unquestionable trust exists.