i'm scared about my next life...

[Lucid68]

I looked at this girls profile and in it she states that she hopes her body is as attractive in the next life . . . with that I felt she has no self esteem issues or maybe I just look too deeply or maybe not deeply enough . . .

[hannah]

It doesn't matter what happens, everything will be the way its meant to be.
Nothing will ever happen to you that you aren't strong enough to cope with, ever. You just have to find the strength within you to do so. You can cope, but whether you do or not is up to you.

Originally Posted by Tiffanyy

i have really bad self esteem issues in this life n wear makeup constantly which makes me feel better,, but now i think everyone thinks i'm fake,, and i'm scared that i'm going to be ugly in my next life,, and if i'm worse looking than i am now,, i know i will be unhappy in my next life,, because my appearance means alot too me,, ive always wanted too be naturally beautiful and because i'm not it affects my relationships really bad and my happiness.. And every aspect of my life actually,, is there a way of controlling what i'm going too look like or will i just have too wait and see?? Also i'm scared i'll be born into a poor family (into a life of violence and crime and benefits) which is what i was born into this life. I would love too be born into a hard working loving family,, who will help my too achieve my dreams and reprogramme me into a strong, independant, stable, disciplined, hard working person...xxx

I skimmed through most of the other responses and they pretty much hit the nail on the head. You are focusing on a lifetime that isn't here yet and not making the one you are in a priority. This lifetime is the one you need to focus on.This lifetime is the one that has lessons to teach. The biggest lesson that is apparent is that you learn self-love which is something you are struggling with now.

Fixating on your ideal life is also a bad idea because we choose the lives we live before birth and we have lessons to learn along the way. None of this is supposed to be a walk in the park and the things you want are very much ego-based. I said at one point that if I came back again, I would not want to struggle financially because I have struggled in this lifetime and my last one. I failed to remember that that kind of struggle teaches one to be humble. That is not a bad thing.

I have also gone through what some might call the "ugly duckling" phase. You know what? I learned to cultivate my sense of humor and compassion towards others because they were definitely not wanting to look at my physical features. I used to wear tons of makeup right after I got contacts and such and you know what? Makeup does not make the person. Confidence will. So learn to love yourself and then maybe.......just maybe........things will start to fall into place for you. And FYI, no romantic relationship that you are in will work unless you love yourself first because you can't love someone else until you learn to love yourself.

Anxiety unchecked can be like a run-away train...it builds up more and more steam and sooner or later you are thinking any anxious thought you have have ever had...consider the source of the anxiety about how you look and if the reality is really as bad as you fear...also, how does that affect your ability to connect with other people and create friendships or romance? Could it be that the anxiety about how you look could affect your ability to reach out to others more than how you look does? Does your fear make you hide yourself more? Can people get a real sense of all your wonderful qualities when you hide?

Tiffanyy...I wish you every happiness, blessings to you :)

[psychoslice]

Don't wast this life worrying about the next, there may not be another life for you, who really knows. But you do know your here now, so again, don't wast it.