This is a biggie ...

[Pandora.]

Despite the constant advice to "move on" from Tony's death, it's something I'm finding extremely difficult to do. He is in my thoughts every second of everyday and I just can't move forward, despite my best efforts I really don't have a clue how to do this.We had over 25 years of bliss and it's incredibly hard to just wipe it and "start again". What the hell does "start again" mean anyway? I could no more be in another relationship on this mortal coil with someone else than fly to the moon. So hence the confusion.


I received a very random message from him (King of Wands) to say he loves me, is with me every day, is proud of me (though why is beyond me), is watching my back. interestingly he said he is fine, which makes perfect sense, as I worry about him constantly, and pray nightly imploring the higher powers to look after him, wondering where he is, if he's happy, if he's advancing spiritually. We had many discussions where he said he would wait for me, but I implore him not to hang around me and to advance himself and find some happiness, difficult as that is.

Sorry to be so deep and meaningful but if anyone gets the urge for a reading, I would be very grateful.

Aw sweetheart, it's still so recent and raw and my heart goes out to you..
I haven't been in your position so I can only speak from a bystanders point if view. My mother was widowed after after 35 years of marriage and 'moving on' for her has meant 'just moving through', how can anyone possibly 'move on' from someone who has been such a huge part of your life?
Its over 20 years now since we lost my dad and she says things don't get better, they are just different and there is only the acceptance that life is different.
Grief is a long and personal process and nobody should expecting you to be through that process.
I'll grab some cards when I'm free and PM you. I just wanted to reply.

[tealily]

Hello! Much love to you.

I haven't been in your situation, but appreciate that it must be a tough situation for you. When I'm grieving, this image helps: https://www.google.com.au/imgres?img...act=mrc&uact=8

(another kind of 'moving through, not moving on' kind of vibe)

I'd also be happy to read for you, feel free to PM me. Pisces is probably better at the spiritual message stuff (not my forte at all) but I can help out as a generalist if needed :)

[Pandora.]

Originally Posted by Pisces_Moon

Aw sweetheart, it's still so recent and raw and my heart goes out to you..
I haven't been in your position so I can only speak from a bystanders point if view. My mother was widowed after after 35 years of marriage and 'moving on' for her has meant 'just moving through', how can anyone possibly 'move on' from someone who has been such a huge part of your life?
Its over 20 years now since we lost my dad and she says things don't get better, they are just different and there is only the acceptance that life is different.
Grief is a long and personal process and nobody should expecting you to be through that process.
I'll grab some cards when I'm free and PM you. I just wanted to reply.

Thanks Pisces Moon. I really appreciate you giving your time and effort.

Tony was truly the love of my life and I'm finding it extremely difficult adjusting without him. I just don't want to let him down and I want him to be happy wherever he is. There are so many more things I would have done to make his life happier and pray that one day in the future I'll have the opportunity to be a better girlfriend, lover, friend, mother to his kids and daughter in law to his mother, and of course, a better wife to him. He was my King of Wands and The Emperor - there was nothing he couldn't solve. Being in active service in the Army in the UK paras, as well as in Aus, absolutely nothing fazed him. He used to say if you can't go round it, go though it, if you can't go though it, go over it. If you can't go over it, go under it. He said there is always a way. *sigh* I just miss him so very, very, much and want the best for him. I just wish I knew he was ok and happy where he is and that there was something more I could do to help him and bring him some happiness.

[Pandora.]

Originally Posted by tealily

Hello! Much love to you.

I haven't been in your situation, but appreciate that it must be a tough situation for you. When I'm grieving, this image helps: https://www.google.com.au/imgres?img...act=mrc&uact=8

(another kind of 'moving through, not moving on' kind of vibe)

I'd also be happy to read for you, feel free to PM me. Pisces is probably better at the spiritual message stuff (not my forte at all) but I can help out as a generalist if needed :)

Oh bless you tealily. I truly and sincerely appreciate your love.

If you are able to do a reading I would of course appreciate it. Anything you can glean would be of help. I just need to know if he's ok where he is and if there's anything I can do to help him to adjust, which must be difficult for him. There's nothing I wouldn't do for him, I don't care if it takes the next millennium. My love grows for him each day, in every thought. I only wish I had appreciated him more when he was still on this plane.

I tried to put a photo of Tony in but as usual, it was too large. I really wish they would update this platform to be more realistic and keep up with the times and technology.

[moonincancer]

Sending you hugs Pandora. Lots of love and hugs

[Pandora.]

Originally Posted by moonincancer

Sending you hugs Pandora. Lots of love and hugs

Thanks moonincancer! Hugs and love is always helpful. I'm so lucky to have so many caring and sincere friends.

[Psychictiff]

I wouldn't go with start again(seems to negate whatcha had for 25 years), but work on finding a "new normal". I tell clients ALL the time that there isn't a due date/expiration date on emotions. We all need to go through things in our own sweet damn time! Anything else would be forced & potentially cause a whole host of other issues(illness, etc, ). All that being said, I feel hes speaking to me about the windows, as if you need to make sure drapes/blinds are pulled, etc. Its not a foreboding, moreso a protective energy. HOWEVER he says love isnt done with you & when you are ready, he'll bring someone to you, so although the timing isnt NOW, please be open to it when it finds you, it'll honor his memory or what you 2 had!! <3 <3

[Pandora.]

Originally Posted by Psychictiff

I wouldn't go with start again(seems to negate whatcha had for 25 years), but work on finding a "new normal". I tell clients ALL the time that there isn't a due date/expiration date on emotions. We all need to go through things in our own sweet damn time! Anything else would be forced & potentially cause a whole host of other issues(illness, etc, ). All that being said, I feel hes speaking to me about the windows, as if you need to make sure drapes/blinds are pulled, etc. Its not a foreboding, moreso a protective energy. HOWEVER he says love isnt done with you & when you are ready, he'll bring someone to you, so although the timing isnt NOW, please be open to it when it finds you, it'll honor his memory or what you 2 had!! <3 <3

Hi Tiff,
Thanks so much for your lovely message and the time and energy you've put into contacting me, someone you don't know from Adam and yet have graciously used your talents to help me. I don't "want" to start again, but the messages from the Tarot keep indicating I need to "move on", which is incredibly difficult to say the least.

Wow, the windows are quite something. I NEVER close the blinds, as I've never felt the need to and don't like feeling stifled and "shut in" so to speak, so the windows and doors are always open and unlocked, and the blinds are never used. My husband Tony also bought me a German Shepherd puppy when he was ill, for companionship and protection for after he died, who is just shy of 2 and is extremely protective, so I never feel concerned. He was very smart actually, as he knew how much I love animals and Shepherds in particular (we had 2 who died of old age some years ago and were waiting until we bought some land before getting another one), so Anzac has helped me enormously by being able to look after him and care for him, in effect, transferring my love from Tony to him (which I realise probably isn't healthy, but it has helped massively and I can't imagine how I would have coped without him).

What do you mean when you say he says love isn't done with me and when I'm ready he'll bring someone to me? That feels like he isn't bothered if I'm with someone else now, which in turn makes me feel my love for him wasn't/isn't sufficient. I really can't possibly think I'd ever be with anyone other than Tony and thought he felt the same. Before he died, he said he'd wait for me and I've always considered that I'm still married to him, and because we're not together at present, doesn't mean we won't be in the future, so I can't possibly entertain the idea of ever being with anyone else.

I had a message regarding the 6 of Pentacles, indicating that would be a sign from him, but I can't fathom for the life of me what it means. I wish I was able to communicate with him in some extent, that he would show a sign of some sort, but unfortunately, I've not received any, which makes it more upsetting. At the present I'm feeling I must have let him down which is why he hasn't made his presence felt.

Thanks again for your wisdom, it is so very much appreciated.

[tealily]

Hey Pandora, I did your reading and PM'd it to you :)