Words of wisdom please

[thelight]

Hi friends,

This is my first post here in the forum. I came here in search of your opinions in a given situation, and I have some questions.

A young woman who I vaguely knew of and had never officially met was killed in a car accident in October of 2016. The driver was her husband, whom was a distant and old friend of mine that I’ve lost contact with. I knew of the happenings from mutual and distant acquaintances. The husband who was the driver I later found out was intoxicated when the accident happened. In addition to having lost his wife in this car crash, he suffered multiple serious injuriies and now will go to prison for two years. The wife who died, did not go instantaneously. Nearly every bone in her body was crushed from the neck down, and she was found still conscious. These happenenings affected me for some reason. Although, I never met this woman and am no longer in contact with any of the other parties for years now.

Since this accident occurred some strange things are happening to me. I’ve had reoccurring dreams with the wife in it or the husband. I am receiving messages from the deceased wife. The wife is jealous in my dream because the husband is still living and she cannot be with him. She is jealous that someone else will be with him. She has an older sister who I keep seeing in random public places at random times. I must note, I live in a large suburban area. I know it’s the sister bc she is hard to forget. She wears a head scarf, and has porcelain skin and bleach blond hair. I’ve seen pictures of the sisters together before. I am receiving messages from the deceased younger sister that I am feeling I am supposed to relay to the older sister, but it would be entirely awkward for me to do so. Although, the message is simple. I am being told that the older sister was like a mother to her, and that the younger sister feels as though she has disappointed her. She wants forgiveness.

Am I to find a way to relay these messages or leave it alone? If I don’t act on it, what do you believe are the implications? I have had these abilities my whole life. I thought it was normal until I realized when I got older that it’s not usual. It’s getting stronger as I get older. I am now 34. I want to use my gifts but am not sure how to appropriately do so. I am highly sensitive, and I absorb things which end up affecting me. I don’t know how to block this and protect myself. So much so, that I can not do a former profession in the spa industry where I was working hands on with people. I absorb too much and it was making me feel drained and sick.

Any advice appreciated. Sorry for the novel, and thank you to anyone who took the time to read and offer up some words of wisdom.

God Bless

[Azmond]

Hello thelight and welcome to the forums. I am really no expert on this matter, bit since I took the time to read your post, I might as well share some of my thoughts, hoping someone else will give your better advice.

Since you explained how you have been experiencing such things your whole life I will just skip the whole "are you really sure that you are getting messages from the deceased" part.

The way I see it, it makes sense for a soul to try and relay a message to the living world through you, since you reacted deeply to the situation. Now some will say that souls of the departed have no business staying on this plane and should try to transition beyond as soon as possible, and any sort of communication and contact with them only further grounds them to this reality and keeps them unable to move on. This is true I suppose, and I think that over time, many souls will be able to move on, if just left alone, realizing what is done is done, and there is no point to linger here. But then again, I do suppose we would all like to have a proper goodbye from our loved ones if possible, and aiding one such departed through relying their message, would possibly help them move on sooner. But I think, it is completely up to you, on what you decide.

You ask, what are the implications if you leave it be? well I suppose it can go either way, same as with every other human being. If someone asks you a question or wants you to do something, and you do not act on it, well they can either give up or decide to ask again and continue doing so, not giving up. I think you should ask yourself, if this is something you want to be a part of at all, because I think chances are if you decide to act on it, it might lead to many other experiences like that. With that you should learn to shield yourself at times you do not wish to be open for such communications.

I do not think, you really need to do anything at all, if you so decide. You do not owe that person anything, and they might be able to sort out things on their own as well, so again it is completely up to you.

I guess the hardest part is, if you deicide to act, how to do it properly right? Well, I have to tell you, I have no idea. If you need to approach that person, her sister, you might want to consider acting a bit, because just contacting them and telling things outright will most likely not go through very good. Since some time already passed from the accident, I suppose they moved on, and are not still in grieving, so that makes it a bit harder to open the debate as well.

You might as well disregard the spirits plea, and do your own thing. Call for her guides to come find her and escort her away from here. if she is bound to this plane by jealousy and other lower emotions, I don't think it will do you and her any good in acting on it. Once she moves on and is able to clearly view things from a much higher vibrational dimension, I think she will be ok with it, and will probably be able to contact her loved ones on her own.

I know, not much help, and I have no real experience with this, only through literature and my own beliefs. What I think is most important, is for you to decide to do what you think is right for you.

Good luck and blessings.

[thelight]

Actually, this is a quite helpful, objective and rational response. Makes sense. Thank you!

[Ladymoth]

Oh my, I so feel for you!! And so clearly an empath!
Firstly, I completely agree with all that Azmond said and would like to add that as a medium and empath, there are several tools you can use to protect yourself from taking in others’ energies. In crystal form- black agate and hematite. Wearing them on the body will be a powerful protectant from negative energy in general but also prevent you from taking on others’ feelings/energy as your own.
As a fellow empath, I can say, they do help! Also, visualizing white light around myself works every time.
About this poor earthbound spirit, I agree to call on your guides to escort her elsewhere, and practice psychic protection techniques to keep a spirit from over-stimulating you in this way. It must be positively exhausting and overwhelming. I completely relate to where you’re at, and if you’d like some resources such as good books, podcasts, etc feel free to message me and I’ll happily pass some info along.
Wishing for you many blessings and serenity :-)

[John32241]

Originally Posted by thelight

Am I to find a way to relay these messages or leave it alone? If I don’t act on it, what do you believe are the implications? I have had these abilities my whole life. I thought it was normal until I realized when I got older that it’s not usual. It’s getting stronger as I get older. I am now 34. I want to use my gifts but am not sure how to appropriately do so. I am highly sensitive, and I absorb things which end up affecting me. I don’t know how to block this and protect myself. So much so, that I can not do a former profession in the spa industry where I was working hands on with people. I absorb too much and it was making me feel drained and sick.

Any advice appreciated. Sorry for the novel, and thank you to anyone who took the time to read and offer up some words of wisdom.

God Bless

Hello,

Welcome to the forum.

I do a lot of spirit communications. More so than most.

My thoughts on being highly sensative and my views on the best way to deal with that are not popular. Instead of using protection to avoid them, embrace the energies, heal them as they relate to another, and release them.

Telepathy when defined as a shared experience, you must know what that is, involves sharing energies/experiences but not being overcome by them. Now if that concept resonates with you consider useing it. If not then forget what I suggest for it will not work for you the way it has with me and others.

As far as how to deal with the current issue, the choice maker in this matter as I see it is the older sister, not you or her passed away sister. I would connect with the higher self of that older sister and seek advice on how best to proceed that way. That higher self is the spirit self which is always active and available.

I hope that these thoughts will be helpful.

John

[Azmond]

Originally Posted by John32241

Hello,

As far as how to deal with the current issue, the choice maker in this matter as I see it is the older sister, not you or her passed away sister. I would connect with the higher self of that older sister and seek advice on how best to proceed that way. That higher self is the spirit self which is always active and available.

I hope that these thoughts will be helpful.

John

Oh that is a really good advice right here as well!

[thelight]

Thank you ladymoth and John for your input. It seems there are some different schools of thought going on here. John, may I ask why your approach is unpopular and what the general argument against it is?
Ladymoth, I have tried the white light bubble you are referring to, and think it helps some, but believe I may have a calling that I have been trying to suppress for too long. The more I’m resisting, it is causing me to feel spiritually blocked up...if that makes sense. I feel like I am not fulfilling that which I’m being called to do. As far as stones go, I’m not sure how sold I am on their efficacy. Maybe I need to read up on it more.
I am opposed to utilizing any tools or sources that may be associated with the occultist rhealm. I’m not sure if that may limit me. But if so then I accept that.

[Ladymoth]

I hear ya, and the fact that you're even asking about how you can connect with your calling and gifts is proof enough that you're on the right path. And I'll just clarify a couple things- the act of surrounding yourself in white light doesn't block out or suppress your abilities, it merely protects you from taking on others' energies. As an empath, walking around without some form of energetic protection is like walking around without your top layer of skin. It's about becoming an empowered empath, so that you can help others with your gifts without getting worn down and exhausted.
As far as the crystals go, I would definitely recommend some research-can't hurt, right? You'll find that historically, people independent of each other reported certain qualities/ effects that the crystals had on their body-physically,mentally, etc. and that their reports were all the same. For example, a man in India reporting rose quartz activating their heart chakra, while at the same time another person in a different locale reporting the same thing, independently of the other. Crystals aren't of the occult realm- they're all natural and from the earth.
At the end of the day, the question is- why are you resisting? Did you grow up in a religious belief system that taught you your abilities are "evil" or not of God? I did, so if thats the case I understand your struggle. I know a devout Catholic medium who is staunchly religious, yet also practices mediumship and she's the one who turned me onto crystals as a way to protect and heal myself.
Ultimately though, you'll find what works for you, I'm only imparting what works for me through the lens of my own experience as an empath and medium.
Wishing you many blessings :-)

[John32241]

Originally Posted by thelight

Thank you ladymoth and John for your input. It seems there are some different schools of thought going on here. John, may I ask why your approach is unpopular and what the general argument against it is?

Hi,

The basic thought is that a lot has changed energetically as a result of 12-21-2012 marker. Prior to that time protection was very necessary for most energetically sensative people. Those like myself are spiritually guided differently and have never used any form of protection. I was advised some 60 years ago to become transparent to negative energies. So in my case, I have never used any form of protection.

Some schools of thought on this are that energetic protection is Now no longer necessary. That it can even be detrimental to getting benificial results. I would not know because I have never used protection.

The core reality as it relates to using protection is "Belief". Belief is the basic principal fror every free choice person in Every Matter. So if you believe you can be harmed, you open the door to be harmed. If you believe you can not be harmed or benifit from being exposed to negative energies, then that will be how you expreience these things.

The argument against this is that there are imperical rules that will never change. That how things work energetically speaking will always be the same. So to negate that thinking the universe thought up this 12-21-2012 rule. Then it started to influence those who use protection so that the results they used to get are no longer working as well as before. This is just a point of view I have on this subject. How we work with our fears needs to evolve and there are all kinds of theories on how that could work. After all using protection is an energetic directive to support the fear based Belief that we can be harmed.

Now you as a person who has become unbalanced energetically speaking by negative energies, you have some real concerns about this topic. That is another subject entirely. I suspect I have said enough on this subject for now.

I needs to remind myself to answer the question being asked and not drift into talking about those obvious follow up questions.

John

[thelight]

John, what you are saying and pointing out interests me. Specifically:

“After all using protection is an energetic directive to support the fear based Belief that we can be harmed.” - very good and valid point.

“Now you as a person who has become unbalanced energetically speaking by negative energies, you have some real concerns about this topic. That is another subject entirely. I suspect I have said enough on this subject for now.”

Yes, I am aware that I probably have become unbalanced by some negative energies surrounding me. I am aware of some of them and am in a constant struggle to set up boundaries, but I feel some of it is out of my control. Some if it I can control and have had to distance myself from those specific energies bc I am unable to block my absorbing of it. I also think it is possible that I have some spirits of deceased lingering around me. These are I guess what you might call lower level spirits. I believe one is causing me constant health problems. So, if I change my belief on this will it stop it it is indeed already occurring?