Breakups and Revenge

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Revenge Your Ex

Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a
variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex"
for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge.

So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
nude photos of her and so on.

The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your
life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It's much
better to show you are indifferent and don't care.

According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
helping men find young beautiful foreign women, "The best revenge is to date
or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will **** her off to no
end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
or more successful.

I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
Russia." says Agee, "The client told me that two days on our tour was better
than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.

I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
pounds. I don't look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
who saved me from my ex and years of suffering." This is the best a revenge
when you win without lowering yourself.

Other sites like "Get Over Her Now" give practical advice and tips for
getting over a past relationship.

Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:

Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.

Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.

Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
confidence.

Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don't let a break up effect
your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
and help attract better quality women.

Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
depressed, don't sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something. Take a
class, go hiking, fix something you've been putting off.

Don't start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
life. Don't drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
something, don't drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.

Don't sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
depressed.

Don't binge eat. If you start gaining weight, you will feel less self-worth
and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
attracted to.

Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!

[FallingLeaves]

revenge doesn't really solve anything. Sure you feel good for a little bit, but it is so addictive that you will eventually just keep getting in relationships so that you can break up and then get revenge. It is a vicious circle. best to leave your ex to their own life and get on with yours.

[Really!]

There is nothing spiritual about revenge ...
I've licked many wounds & learned to move on ...
When something bad happens to a person whom revenge was sought on it can cause guilt feelings that naturally will have to be worked through ...
In writing that I'm thinking of an old boss I had in the 70s when I was a young single mother ...
It was well known he was misoginist who enjoyed firing single/divorced mothers bi-monthly as some sort of revenge for being female as well as morally depraved ...
We were like little mice scurrying around w/palpitating hearts constantly worried about keeping our job till the unthinkable happened, his only child was killed in a motorcycle accident ...
From that time on he was a changed man - he'd randomly stop by to ask any of the 35 single/divorced mothers if their kid (s) was doing well, learned their names, allowed us to leave work to care for a sick child, no longer fired any mothers on the spot for being late ...
We all learn from our own life experiences as well as share w/others b/c sadly, it can happen to you too ...

[Shaunc]

I'd agree with the above post. There's nothing spiritual about revenge. Every human life on this planet has known sorrow and suffering. Just pick yourself up and move on and if there is any revenge to be had let the cosmos take care of it (karma).

Revenge does have its use but only under measured control. Getting mad
and meting it out is precarious.
I'm a believer in retribution if it acts as a leveller, restores balance.
And perhaps teaches a miscreant that she/he isn't always going to get away
with acts/conduct that set someone else at a disadvantage or deprive them
of something needed.

Revenge is an emotive term. It could equally be called restoring balance or "justice."
The law in most countries recognises it in this way. Someone breaks it, if caught
they're punished on a scale relating to the "crime." Likewise, personal
matters not covered by law sometimes invoke a sense of injustice.
This isn't to say that the law is always right or that its resting on just
the technical and not circumstantial is useful.

One should always be aware of the danger of escalation however.

Magick provides ways of exacting vengeance by using forces on the astral.

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Originally Posted by Shaunc

I'd agree with the above post. There's nothing spiritual about revenge. Every human life on this planet has known sorrow and suffering. Just pick yourself up and move on and if there is any revenge to be had let the cosmos take care of it (karma).

Can't agree. There is everything spiritual about someone feeling
that revenge is appropriate. Their spirit has been thrown into a serious imbalance.
Powers at the "fight back" end of the spectrum have been invoked.

Seems impossible to accept that someone's peace being shattered isn't of
spiritual concern.


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[Sarian]

I say success of one's own life is the best 'revenge'...

[Really!]

Originally Posted by Lorelyen

Can't agree. There is everything spiritual about someone feeling
that revenge is appropriate. Their spirit has been thrown into a serious imbalance.
Powers at the "fight back" end of the spectrum have been invoked.

Seems impossible to accept that someone's peace being shattered isn't of
spiritual concern. ...

Revenge generates negative energy as well as takes the focus off one's well being ...
I seriously doubt the man who killed my husband for which no legal justice was served does not believe in karma or that anyone would be having vengeful thoughts about him ...
His only concern was exacting revenge on drivers including my husband after being angered by a customer at his work earlier in the evening ...
He was out to get what he thought he was entitled to as well as trying to control innocent people who had nothing to do w/his anger issue --- people just happened to be in his way as well as the 2 young men he seriously injured 2yrs later - one was blinded, the other walks w/pain & a limp ...
Lessons from real life experiences influence a person's perspective on what is right & what is wrong as well as how to restore balance in life as well as educates others ...
I do not think in terms of revenge or waste my time w/negative wishful thinking about what may never come to pass or what I may never be made aware of it ...
Tunnel vision is futile ...
I move on w/my life the best I can by empowering myself in different ways b/c the facts of my life could destroy me or my family if I allowed them to in behaving like the young man who killed my husband ...

A breakup is painful, for many people it's part of the journey of learning what love is about & the sacrifices one makes ...

^^ In spiritual terms negative energy is but the opposite to positive energy. In an ideal situation they balance = the Middle Pillar.
Pushing to turn everything positive gets little done. Fine for affirmations but not in the cosmic balance of things.

I sometimes get the idea on this forum that spirituality equates with the passive and meek. Trouble with that is the danger of becoming a doormat.

I have an acquaintance about to die who was raped and given Aids. I mentioned this some time ago when the passive lot were out to "forgive" everyone everything. She gave up wanting to live as a result. So anyone who claims that something that inspires revenge isn't spiritual is not spiritual (in my reckoning). It's important that the culprit doesn't think he'll get away with it again. He's been caught; he'll be in prison but like you that is hardly justice. So there's a pogrom now somehow to get hold of him and avenge the act by ensuring he'll never again be able to commit such a violation.

You're right - it won't restore the girl's life...but he won't do it again. If they can bring this off then he'll hopefully give up and follow her to the grave. Even with your tragedy it's important for the safety of all to get such people out of society.

It's how it is. One has to take a stand at some point.

I don't think of myself as a wimp nor passive nor aggressive. It's easy to be either of the latter, difficult to be just.
It's how we are individually.

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[Shaunc]

Originally Posted by Lorelyen

Revenge does have its use but only under measured control. Getting mad
and meting it out is precarious.
I'm a believer in retribution if it acts as a leveller, restores balance.
And perhaps teaches a miscreant that she/he isn't always going to get away
with acts/conduct that set someone else at a disadvantage or deprive them
of something needed.

Revenge is an emotive term. It could equally be called restoring balance or "justice."
The law in most countries recognises it in this way. Someone breaks it, if caught
they're punished on a scale relating to the "crime." Likewise, personal
matters not covered by law sometimes invoke a sense of injustice.
This isn't to say that the law is always right or that its resting on just
the technical and not circumstantial is useful.

One should always be aware of the danger of escalation however.

Magick provides ways of exacting vengeance by using forces on the astral.

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Lorelyen. Breaking up with someone in a relationship is hardly the same as a criminal being punished for breaking the law. Everyone has had their feelings/heart hurt before it's part of growing up. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you go back to them or let them back into your life it just means that you don't want to waste your time and energy hating them. Also how are you expected to meet the right one if you keep letting the wrong one back into your life.