Reprogramming to improve your relationships

[LightSeeker555]

I'm coming from a place where I need to be competitive, day in and day out... however sometimes I realize that this competitive mindset that our Western society lives with sometime causes us to view others in an "unfriendly manner" outside of work environment.

Recently I been trying some exercises, which I would like to share. And I would like you guys to share as well what type of visualizations and exercises you would do to better your relations with people and view your fellow human beings more of like a family member then an outsider.

I would like us all to learn from each others posts and preform these exercises

So here goes...

Sometimes when I sit on a bus or in a waiting area, I look at the person infront of me, if I happen for some reason find something about that person which I don't particularly like, instead of looking at that person as "Me vs him/her". I look at them as a reflection of me. I imagine that, that person is an exact reflecting of me, and if I don't like what I see, I have to change myself first... this type of artificially implemented mindset humbles me and helps me generate compassion for the other person.

[Maguru]

Originally Posted by LightSeeker555

I'm coming from a place where I need to be competitive, day in and day out... however sometimes I realize that this competitive mindset that our Western society lives with sometime causes us to view others in an "unfriendly manner" outside of work environment.

Recently I been trying some exercises, which I would like to share. And I would like you guys to share as well what type of visualizations and exercises you would do to better your relations with people and view your fellow human beings more of like a family member then an outsider.

I would like us all to learn from each others posts and preform these exercises

So here goes...

Sometimes when I sit on a bus or in a waiting area, I look at the person infront of me, if I happen for some reason find something about that person which I don't particularly like, instead of looking at that person as "Me vs him/her". I look at them as a reflection of me. I imagine that, that person is an exact reflecting of me, and if I don't like what I see, I have to change myself first... this type of artificially implemented mindset humbles me and helps me generate compassion for the other person.

Yes I believe what you are projecting onto another is a reflection of yourself. How can be otherwise? However, people don't like having a mirror held up in front of them because it hurts and it is difficult seeing your own negative aspects.

[linen53]

Very well said LightSeeker.

When I see someone who has some characteristic I find displeasing, I say to myself. That person chose that body for their own needs. That includes that characteristic that I find displeasing. That's how I put things into perspective.