Do you feel uncomfortable to let someone get too close to you? Where you may start to feel deep connective feelings for another, the realisation that you may have come close to feel the edge of... love? Yet at the same time may begin to experience an overwhelming fear that these feelings may someday be hurt from a belief there could be a risk of a person leaving you? with the risk to experience a pain once experienced before.
This thought and feeling so overwhelming may trigger the mind to protect itself from being hurt and may begin to trigger the body to comfort eat in order to repel what it feels is a threat to your emotions. As a way and means to protect you?
Also consider if you may not value yourself enough? That you may have a low self image about yourself that tells you that others may see you how you do. A low self esteem and low value can trigger withdrawal from socialising, anxiety towards relationships as self questioning becomes torturous asking ‘am I good enough’.
Often there is a learned behaviour from the childhood years carried into adulthood, the confusion sometimes arises when the link cannot be made and current self image beliefs remains through life. Exploring back to conditioning may help open some doors for you.
Sometimes the feeling of freedom being threatened is often an experience when freedom may have once been trapped, restricted or controlled in some way.
It’s understandable that you want to be with a person who could not only love you for you, but also to respect that you are still an individual with your own hopes, dreams and wishes in life.
To live your life with a partner that respects you in this way, by allowing you to be who you truly wish to be, can make the difference if the relationship will last.
Consider if it’s a time now to unlearn what was learned and begin to start a new, beginning by being kind and nurturing to yourself. To give yourself permission, because you deserve it.
Hope you may find something of value here. Take care.
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