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Originally Posted by Gemini11
Well I tried telling him that I didn't like the coworker and tried explaining to him that I only wanted. I tried getting him to understand but that backfired. He got so mad at me and said that I must think he's stupid. He also threatened to contact my husband if I didn't "admit" that I was lying. I ended up saying I was lying to keep him from telling my husband. So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Everyday he asks what I liked about the coworker and I just say I don't know. I end up saying we're done then beg for him back. Now yesterday we got into it again over the same thing. He said I'm just going to end up hurting him and he doesn't trust me. He wants to know why he wasn't good enough for me to not want anyone else. I want to put it through his head that I never wanted anyone else. I ended up saying that we're not together anymore. And that he keeps bringing up things and we'll never have a future because of it. He said he wasn't taking me back. That he's going to let me hurt and said i will stop hurting in a few days. Then I just didn't reply and he started getting mad saying he wanted to f*** this girl named F but not over another girl named A. That was like a punch in the face. It knocked the wind out of me when he said that. Before we went to bed he said he doesn't want this anymore. I said I didn't either. But I do. I ended up basically begging for him back and now I just woke up in the middle of the night and texted more stuff begging him basically. I hate that I just can't be strong enough and not beg for him. I want so bad for him to believe I didn't want anyone else.
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Sorry to hear he's acting that way towards you (using threats to get you to tell him what he wants to hear) - that seems very manipulative....
Also, his continuing to obsess about the subject of your coworker does not sound healthy. It appears this person has some serious 'issues' that he needs to work on addressing and healing....
Do you think you two could ultimately benefit from spending time apart? What is it exactly that you feel and fear that causes you to resort to begging for him back?
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