Interesting Dream I Want To Follow Up On

[LolKat]

When I originally woke up from this dream, I had forgotten it, but then it suddenly popped into my head. It involved an authority figure (my father), giving things away to "fit in" (literally, there was a tiny space, and he was not tiny, yet he twisted and contorted in order to fit). In essence, I feel the dream meant that I was giving away things, or parts of me, or maybe even my own personal power, in order to "fit in".

This makes complete sense to me, but I don't know what to do about it? What am I giving away? How do I keep it? What even is my "power" or "myself". These questions are big and broad and just not answered easily by, say, Google. (No really, I tried Google. It was less than helpful). So I was hoping someone who is more experienced with dreams could help me with the messages I've received. The day after I set intentions during the New Moon!

I would really love to learn as much as I can, and live my best life, for me and for my family.

Thanks, y'all!

P.S. I am an enthusiastic tarot reader, so definitely going to try to see what they have to say, too!

From the information provided, I don't get the giving away your power aspect of the dream, but as the one who received the dream, you should go with how you feel about it. To me, it sounds like your a people pleaser, perhaps even a bit shy around people and far more likely to go out of your way for others and to fit in or accommodate them. Keep in mind that you're both male and female energy. In this dream, masculine energy is trying to make itself fit into a small confined area. The feeling of this dream should be a big clue. It couldn't have felt comfortable and that is the whole point. Masculine energy is your assertive, penetrating energy. It also represents light, thoughts and wisdom. Perhaps you're trying to fit in and change your way of thinking to conform in some manner that is uncomfortable.

[John32241]

Originally Posted by LolKat

I would really love to learn as much as I can, and live my best life, for me and for my family.

Hi,

I see some dreams as messages from the soul. My understanding is that to learn as much as you can you need to Evolve what you have been taught. Same say forget what you have been taught and this process is easier.

There is an authentic self. For self discovery to begin you need to give away everything you have been told about yourself. I find that this can be very hard to do. That it is better to revise and tweek the self bias you have been conditioned to have.

Any way that is my impression of what your dreams means. I hope it is helpful.

John

[Michelle11]

I would say you are playing small as a means to possibly not outshine your friends and family. I agree there is possibly an element of being a people pleaser and accommodating so as not to lose favor with anyone. The father character could mean you learned this from your father or this is some rule to live by that you have made for yourself. This is likely about how you act as the male energy is about action while the female energy is about emotion and feeling.

I had a father that seemed angry all the time. As a child, to compensate and not lose my dads affections I became a people pleaser as a means to try and not upset people. In the process I lost my authentic self and spent a lifetime in a state of underlying perpetual worry. I'm breaking the pattern by getting curious about my responses to life.

Mindfulness has been invaluable to me. You have the answers within you, we just need to ask questions of ourselves and the insights will come. So you are being given an insight that you are playing small to fit in. Ask yourself why? What am I benefitting from doing that? What rule have I adopted that drives me to act that way? What do I need to know to break the pattern? Questions like that. It's a process that takes time and may lead you down many paths but it's worth it. Take care.

[LolKat]

Thank you all for helping!

I definitely feel that dreams can be messages, especially if they're as detailed as mine was!

You know, I didn't really look at it as my masculine energy trying to fit in, but that definitely rings true. I've always been kind of loud and bold, and lately I've been told I need to tone it down. But I feel like that is giving up so much of myself. And I'm definitely a people pleaser. I discovered at some point in my teens that if you don't fit in, or if you "rock the boat" (yes, I have been told I do that, too), then no one likes you, and no one wants you. And I lived like that for a long time, friendless. And it sucked! Lol So, perhaps I've gone too far the other way. I hope I can find balance.

Every dream has a dream trigger and since you wee recently told to "tone it down" that was the reason for the dream. Hearing that caused you to feel as if you can't be you and it makes you feel contained and confined.