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Originally Posted by Rosewater
it was a study done by harvard with psychical attraction only. were you attracted to him on based on his appareance intially? also this doesn't mean hair color, eye color, it has more to do with eye shape, nose etc
as for feelings no that doens't make them wrong but they could make you view reality subjectively
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Ah, I've not gone into that much depth.
I'm not sure why I was attracted to him.
It was something that built up over time.
As we spent time together we each ticked each others' boxes, so to speak,,, It felt right! It still does, in lots of ways!
Previous to this I was in a very passionate liason, that fizzled out, then fired up as and when. We had something that seemed to suit both of us, as and when,,,, Either of us could contact the other and it would fire up, it fizzled out when it seemd it suited both of us too. At first it was confusing, yet I soon got used to it and got on with my own life during and in-between. It was in the fizzled out stage when I met my now partner.
The other day he contacted me and the feelings came back, oh boy, did they! Previous to this, I'd been thinking about him for a few days.
Now, did I feel his thoughts?
Did he pick up on mine, then contact me?
Was it just we were on the same wavelength?
Now the confusing part is, I'm not on this wavelength with my now partner!
This is what I'm questioning!
If it can happen with my ex, why is it not happening with my partner?
Where is the wavelength? Does it have to come from both of us?
Can I determine it? Can he determine it?
I know I'm missing something, I just can't see it!
My feelings, or lack of them sometimes, are getting in the way!
My ex knows I'm in a relationship, he tried to tempt me and I resisted! My partner and our relationship is too important to me with regards to this. I just miss the passion!
Love and hugs
Jo
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