Am I a prude?

[twinkle]

I have been unlucky in love. Since I have not dated any guy I liked enough to be in a long-term or serious relationship with, I am not as familiar with what is the norm in serious relationships. Do most couples in a serious relationship engage in threesomes?

[WhiteWarrior]

Some? Yes. Most? No.

To me, serious relationships do not engage in that sort of thing. I feel that when your intimate with someone your serious about...its about you and them...period. If you want to have an open relationship, well thats a totally different scenario in itself. Thats where the threesome aspect comes into play. Thats just how I believe.

Do what feels right to you! That's the important thing. Everyone is different.

From my own experience, I would say that most people in serious relationships do not have threesomes.

[Sarian]

I think most do not. I would not be interested.

I had a friend who gets into threesomes and foursomes, whatever floats your boat, I guess.

Are you meeting all these men who want this?

I also hate how the word 'prude' has developed such a negative connotation in society... People sometimes use it to make others feel bad and pressure them into doing things that don't feel good to them.

If your a 'prude', I say its good to be prudent. :)

[twinkle]

Yes, I came across a man interested in this. I can't say if past men I dated were into this since I did not stick around long enough to find out. I got mad at this man for revealing his sexual fantasy to me. I am not sure if I had the right to be mad just because I did not like it. I did not have to participate if I did not want to. Recently, I read some relationship advice that stated not to make your man feel ashamed to tell you sexual fantasies. Just checking.

I have to agree with all the above advice. You had the right to tell him you were'nt interested in this without feeling like a "prude"

I believe a lot of men fantasize about being with two women. I personally don't see anything wrong with that type of fantasy if all were consenting adults. However, I would never expect anyone I was in a long term relationship with to do something like that. I think the emotions involved in most serious relationships could lead to someone getting hurt, and that's never really a good thing.

Talking openly about each other's sexual fantasy is natural and healthy in a committed long term relationship.
BTW, most men have threesome fantasy. They can talk about it but you also need to communicate clearly about your feelings about it.

However, a man that you do not know very well talks to you about threesomes indicates clearly that he is not serious about you and that he is just looking for a short term sex partner.