I have to be honest, I think that you are expecting too much of this relationship. Seperation and breaking down of a relationship is a very traumatic event and there is a child involved.
This is not about you
- as humans we tend to grow attached to others and then we transfer our needs onto them. She is not there to fit in with your time lines ...
Originally Posted by NeterKhet11
Now it will be a month in exactly 4 days and no communication has transpired though I do often see her online on social media happily interacting and scheduling meetings with people, groups and taking pictures with them. Yet I was thinking to myself if this was the same person who about a month ago said she needed to sort herself out and find her balance. It all felt out of place for me as she even seemed to have ignored my birthday which was on a New Year....all of these didn't matter much but there are moments where I feel emotional and it gets to me in times like this. She asked for a month but I have decided personally without telling her to make it 2 months. Not that I'm having expectations but I feel doing that will give me time to perceive what might come up as closure.
Your words here to me say that you are waiting, waiting for her to connect to you. If someone says that they need space, they need space. It does not matter if she is interacting with others she has that right. What is it within you that needs to be noticed here, how can you give yourself this feeling rather than expecting it from her?
Originally Posted by NeterKhet11
There were Moments where she would suggest we meet but knowing the nature of our connection I was willing to make her and us wait so she can handle her issues and conditionings especially her current commitment as I did not intend to get physically involved too soon. In the midst of everything she eventually moved out of the house but not the marriage. I could recall her feeling all sorts of emotions after making that move even though we had yet to meet. So I gave her the space she needs and planned to meet up a month after she moved out.
Here you say you were willing to make her and us wait - this is not your call. In fact it is a little unhealthy. Great spiritual understanding comes from the knowledge that we are to accept things as they are, not aim to direct others and ourselves to a conclusion that comforts us alone. Did she actually plan with you that she wanted to meet a month after she moved out? If she did then this is good, however if this was a thought in your own mind, it may be time to re-check in with yourself and your expectations re: this connection.
I love that you got to meet her and experience some joy in this, yet I also feel your pain at her withdrawal and the pull me closer, push me away dynamic that is appearing for the two of you. Whatever your connection and especially if it is a tf relationship - the dance has started. The dance will teach you a lot and honestly, there are no twins that just meet and then get together straight away. This stuff can take years.
The timelines have shifted, however, regardless of this, the inner development still has to be actioned and both parties need to feel as if they are contented to be with one another. The work comes from seeing your pain within and not making it about the other. As long as you are looking outside the relationship will stay in a 3rd dimensional reality.
From tales of old some twins in the old timelines took 20, 30 (maybe even 40 for some) years to get together. Despite the planetary changes there are still pauses in connection and adjustments needed. Maybe the new timelines will bring twins back together quicker. However, this is only if the twins themselves wake up to their own behaviour and expectations of the other.
It takes guts and real inner reflection to truly make such a relationship work. Also it takes real inner resolve to be sure that the person truly is your twin. If we get this part wrong, we stay for a long time with someone that is never going to be right for us.
Wow, I have written a lot _ I never usually respond with this much. I hope it helps you a little and if you need any further clarification, etc feel free to ask.