finding a guy when I am a homebody

[jenriggs]

Hi, I got out of a ten year relationsip a few momths ago, and am ready to start dating again.all of my friends are married with kids, and I rarely see them anymore, so its not like I am going to go to the bar alone... I started volunteering at an animal shelter just in case I might me someone with similar interests, but its impossible to even hear a person speak witj the barking dogs. i try to look good when I go to the store, but what kinda guy is going to talk to me there? Im not really lonely, per se, but with my friends busy with family, and not having anyone to go oit with has pretty much isolated to my house every night, and I miss having a companion. Does anyone have any ideas? I will not do the internet, because sincr I gained a little weight, I dont like taking pictures. I am only like 15 pounds overweight probably, I used to be stick thin before the breakup. Since my last bf, I know what I want, so how do I even find that? Thanks, guys

Not knowing where you are it's difficult to know what facilities are available. Are their any adult education classes nearby? Specialist interest clubs (e.g. photography/art/music)? Summer schools? Even small ads in the local rag that sometimes advertise for friendships rather than relationships? I do keep up with a few friends from school days but as you say, they get married and drift into their own things, but work keeps me in contact with so many people I don't think about relationships too much. I get dated here and there for which I'm grateful!! I can appreciate your situation from the thought that if I did get into a longer term relationship and it broke up, I'm not sure how I'd rebuild my life. Probably through the things I suggested.

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[Just wondering]

Dear Jenriggs, as someone who came out of an eleven year relationship a few years ago, I think that since only a few months have passed since the breakup, you are not ready for another relationship. If you mean casual dating, or rebound:), then go for it. Just speaking from my and some other people's experience. Take time. Time to recover (even if it was you who left), to know yourself, to be free, taking time between relationships is always good. Best of luck to you!

[Boldwiseone]

Look into some interest groups, perhaps even through 'meetup.com' ....
that's where I found my present boyfriend and I was single for four years and was in a similar situation as you. <3 all the best

Time to recover (even if it was you who left), to know yourself, to be free, taking time between relationships is always good.

This is good advice.
The best friends and lovers I had are actually the ones I didn't even seek out,
so much for easy social internet access.
But don't get me wrong, meetup.com is good.
Another thing is catching up with old friends and putting the word out there.
Worked well with some people I know well.

Don't worry about the weight too much, or let it hold you from having fun.
Reminds me of a girl at my workplace who was talking about her weight, and my response to her is you are beautiful and cute in your own way as you are, and fun.
Just have fun, and appreciate that at least, you have some body, think of it as deliciously something you have to offer - that you are not a skin & bone stick.
And before long, the boy who loves flirting with me for fun while only working hooked up with her.
Now, they're hitting it off and loving each other.

[sarek]

What you're looking for is not necessarily someone with similar interests but someone with a compatible type.
If you want to find such a person go to one of the personality test sites and try find out what your MBTI type is. That will give you a good lead on the kind of person who would be a good match for you.
Often such sites will also have a forum attached where you can actually meet people.