the magnetic pull of why we fall for people we shouldn't ?

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by Lynn

Hello

I would look to what is missing in yourself that your looking to have completed. At times we are looking for personal growth but when we are in the relationship we do not see that.

I have been with someone 33 years and I am leaving him behind. I was a shy inward nerd and he was a biker and rebel when I went with him. Why was simple he was just what would tick of my over controlling parents. While it lasted 33 years, I grew from the relationship but he never did. He never changed in all that time. He was my path to personal growth and when I met someone that was my match I saw that I grew up and it was time to be free.

I needed to have that path to become whom I am today. So there was that need to be that rebel in me to find that inner strength to know I can walk the life path that is MINE.

Lynn

@Lynn wow, Thank you for sharing your story. It's related to myself too because I'm a bookworm and I tend to be physically attracted to the rebel type of guys. Only they live a hard life they were raised on the streets.

[Lynn]

Hello

Well I am in the process of leaving my "rebel" and all his habits and issues. For a kinder and gentler man that had a hard life upbringing. He was bounced from home to home in care. He turned out well and is the perfect match to me. If there is a Twin Flame I found mine.

Lynn

Originally Posted by Lynn

Hello

Well I am in the process of leaving my "rebel" and all his habits and issues. For a kinder and gentler man that had a hard life upbringing. He was bounced from home to home in care. He turned out well and is the perfect match to me. If there is a Twin Flame I found mine.

Lynn

That's great news Lynn! Congrats.

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by Lynn

Hello

Well I am in the process of leaving my "rebel" and all his habits and issues. For a kinder and gentler man that had a hard life upbringing. He was bounced from home to home in care. He turned out well and is the perfect match to me. If there is a Twin Flame I found mine.

Lynn

@ Lynn I'm glad your going into what it sounds like to be a more healthier relationship. I should have explained that I kinda grew up more in a sheltered lifestyle, I wasn't the type to venture out into the world. I'm more of a homebody. And the guys that I tend to fancy are more street smart, you can tell they have been around the block . So how I grew up and they grew up is different. I don't think the guys that I like are bad people, not by a long shot. It's just that the environments are culturally different , and what I have experienced throughout my life wouldn't really phase them. I know that I could learn from guys like that and they could also learn from me too.