How can twin flame runners go for a lomg time without any communication?

memo20 · #1 16-06-2019, 06:14 PM

I know about running all too well but even when my tf was running he would contact me at least once a year. My tf now hasn't contacted me in 2 years not one word.
Is it normal for tfs to go this long or more without ANY communucation? And if so how do they do it?

M.Tesla · #2 16-06-2019, 06:46 PM

Mine has for 11 years. I've found that it had to happen, for me to have the chance to become a better person, and plus the first ten years I wouldn't have been ready, I was dealing with so much stuff in life. Now I feel like ill be fine whether she stays or goes.

How do they do it? Not sure , lol I wish you peace with this though.

I think twin flames separate in order to have the space for self-growth and lessons that could not have been there if they were in contact.

Ciona · #3 16-06-2019, 07:34 PM

It depends on what decisions your higher self is making.

ssdm1 · #4 18-06-2019, 04:20 AM

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Originally Posted by memo20

I know about running all too well but even when my tf was running he would contact me at least once a year. My tf now hasn't contacted me in 2 years not one word.
Is it normal for tfs to go this long or more without ANY communucation? And if so how do they do it?

Yes this is a normal part of the journey. My twin and I had no contact for over 20 years, but he came back into my life in 2016.

This separation is a time for each of you to go within, to learn and to live your best life. IF you are meant to come back together you will.

Flameseeker · #5 18-06-2019, 05:50 AM

If your twin flame is running it’s because of you, It has nothing to do with them,
I know some people say that they’re just running from them self but that’s not true, you are the one that is causing them to run it’s your energy and your codependence and you’re wanting them so badly that energetically pushes them away once you decide in your heart and mind that you don’t want or need them any longer and you are whole alone and I mean don’t just think about it actually really mean it and feel it then they will come back and the tables will turn and you possibly will become the runner.

I once read that if you’re not balanced within yourself and you still have codependency issues that it will literally put a wall up to your twin flame that they cannot approach you and I have experienced this within my own life when I first met my twin he attempted to come and talk to me a few times but he couldn’t, he physically could not get the words out he physically could not come and speak to me from his perspective he thought it was due to his lack of self-esteem or his lack of confidence but the reality is that it was my energy,
as much as I wanted him to come and talk to me I was repelling him I was feeling energetically putting a barrier up so that he could not

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FairyCrystal · #6 18-06-2019, 09:26 AM

It is not necessary to be in contact. I actually prefer not to be in touch. It's too upsetting to feel how we click, to feel what will never be this lifetime, only to then disconnect again and having to deal that.
I also don't believe in being friends with an ex, not even a TF. A partner -we were together- was someone I had wanted to build a future with, especially with him. Friends is entirely different. I don't need him to be a friend.

What I don't get from people is why they want to be in touch with someone who doesn't want to be with you, and why they are waiting for it. Waiting 2 years to hear from someone? That's wasting your life away. You didn't come here to pine over someone, put your life on hold. Not sure you do that, but many do after they've met their alleged TF.
The idea is to live a full life, with or without them. If you cannot be with them, cannot be in touch with them, let it go, move on, and live.

As for your question directly: I think you can go without contact for the rest of your life.
I have no intention of ever contacting him again, and I'm fine with that, and I hope he never contacts me again either.
There are no ill feelings, mind you, not at all. But contact would add nothing to my life.

#7 26-04-2020, 01:13 PM

if it has been 2 years and neither of you has reached out to each other it looks to me as if it is over and out basically this relationship. I don't mean to be cruel or anything but that is what it looks like to me. Why are you holding on for him to get back to you ? Is it not suppose to be mutual ? The more time that will past the less likely is it that either of you will get back in touch with one another, no ? If you are the one who desires contact then contact him and see how it goes ? Sorry, lots of questions here on my part... hope it works out...