I don't understand what happened..

I talked to this girl for a year and a half online.. then we started talking on the phone and that lasted less than 3 days before she just left. What happened?

[PoppyGardens]

Originally Posted by OneChord

I talked to this girl for a year and a half online.. then we started talking on the phone and that lasted less than 3 days before she just left. What happened?

She randomly left? I find that a bit odd. Did you two have a falling out at all?

Nope. We always had little arguments, differences of our characters that we needed to and tried to sort out, you know the usual.. stating our differences, but they were blown up way out of proportion. I would not call them "fights" at all. Just major differences in our personalities that we were trying to sort out. Maybe we never sorted out our differences....

[PoppyGardens]

I don't understand why she would just leave if the only thing that happened were you two arguing. Maybe she's dealing with things of her own? I'm still not understanding why she would leave? :/
I'm not missing something here, am I?

[CrystalSong]

People just wander off early in relationships, they see something off in another direction and want to go explore it. Call it
Shiny Object Syndrome'. lol
As we get older we get a little more responsible about at least letting the other person know we are going to wander off or be busy and out of contact. But young people tend to just wander off without a word.

[fennel]

Originally Posted by OneChord

I talked to this girl for a year and a half online.. then we started talking on the phone and that lasted less than 3 days before she just left. What happened?

Did you ever meet in person? Was this the first time she heard your voice?

The difficult thing with conducting online relationships is that without actually meeting the person, hearing them...you can't really know if there's true chemistry. Maybe she didn't like the way you sound. She certainly owes you an explanation, that's for sure.

[PoppyGardens]

My mind is so confused right now. You mentioned that you had arguments or differences. How bad were these times of trying to "sort out" your differences. I just find it odd that she left without a word or telling you. Not to mention how rude it is :/

[Tanemon]

Originally Posted by CrystalSong

People just wander off early in relationships, they see something off in another direction and want to go explore it. Call it
Shiny Object Syndrome'. lol
As we get older we get a little more responsible about at least letting the other person know we are going to wander off or be busy and out of contact. But young people tend to just wander off without a word.

Yes, I'd say this is accurate.

OneChord, you may have noticed a pattern here. The 'relationship' started online, moved to phone conversations, then vanished - getting closer to IRL (in real life, fully embodied face-to-face). Real human relationship happens in that embodied zone. She may simply have shied away from that.

Of course, at this point it would be hard to say she'll not re-emerge in your life.

I'd say, don't hold your breath.

Originally Posted by Tanemon

Yes, I'd say this is accurate.

OneChord, you may have noticed a pattern here. The 'relationship' started online, moved to phone conversations, then vanished - getting closer to IRL (in real life, fully embodied face-to-face). Real human relationship happens in that embodied zone. She may simply have shied away from that.

Of course, at this point it would be hard to say she'll not re-emerge in your life.

I'd say, don't hold your breath.

Wow, that is an eye opener.. I'm young too, but I guess I have lived and learned. What comes next, the shiny object, is not always better. The grass isn't always greener on the other side kind of thing.

That coming from me is a big thing lol. In my teens and early twenties I thought I'd never meet someone that would be "better" than my Twin flame.

Or that would make me even want to be with them. Let alone someone other than my twin flame.. anyway I'm venturing off-topic here..

I think I understand now Haha!